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This is a discussion on Male INFPs, get it together! within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Completely agree with the OP and also OmarFW. I can empathize with being confused about who you are since being ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    Completely agree with the OP and also OmarFW.

    I can empathize with being confused about who you are since being an INFP male means life is a lot more different and confusing for you than the rest of the male herd, but I don't have much respect for people who whine without wanting to take any action to change the things they don't like in their life. Too often I see other INFPs afraid of being critical on one another much to the detriment of the person needing help. Rather than simply comforting and enabling, I think giving pragmatic solutions are a better approach and I like all the advice given in this thread so far.

    I think INFP men actually have an advantage when they are confident about how to use our natural people talents. I thought OmarFW nailed it when he said many girls dig Fi if you have the confidence to use it. I feel like I have a gigantic advantage over most men.
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  2. #42
    INFP - The Idealists

    I think I got most of the whining out of my system before I came to this forum. For now at least.

    I know how easy it is to get into that mindset. The hopelessness. Repeating the regrets in your mind over and over. And it can just get worse and worse.

    Expressing these types of feelings has its place, but it's only meaningful if it leads to change, to actions that will make a difference. There is a lot of injustice in the world. And feeling bad and upset about it is totally appropriate. But unfortunately feeling bad isn't going to do anything. You have to take action. This begins by taking control of your own life.

    I've always felt I had tremendous potential. I seemed to have insights and understandings that others lacked. But I also had fears that could become paralyzing. My introspection and intense feelings are both a blessing and curse, depending on how I use them.

    Receiving others compassion, understanding, and advice has been very helpful, but I know that ultimately, it's up to me.

  3. #43
    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by Listener View Post
    I think I got most of the whining out of my system before I came to this forum. For now at least.

    I know how easy it is to get into that mindset. The hopelessness. Repeating the regrets in your mind over and over. And it can just get worse and worse.

    Expressing these types of feelings has its place, but it's only meaningful if it leads to change, to actions that will make a difference. There is a lot of injustice in the world. And feeling bad and upset about it is totally appropriate. But unfortunately feeling bad isn't going to do anything. You have to take action. This begins by taking control of your own life.

    I've always felt I had tremendous potential. I seemed to have insights and understandings that others lacked. But I also had fears that could become paralyzing. My introspection and intense feelings are both a blessing and curse, depending on how I use them.

    Receiving others compassion, understanding, and advice has been very helpful, but I know that ultimately, it's up to me.
    Well spoken.
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  4. #44
    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by refugee View Post
    just increase your individuality to the point where the right type of person will be attracted to you. stand out!
    That has it's consequences.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    After reading your posts, I have to agree that too often people look at personality typings as an end-all-be-all for who you are. Which is ironic for INFPs because everything I've read says we're supposed to be a highly individualistic type. There are no two INFPs that are the same. As such, we shouldn't try and change ourselves to gain approval from someone else. We're individuals for a reason amd we should embrace it. That being said, I have made the mistake of changing for someone else's benefit. After reading this thread though, I plan on being a bit more true to myself. Thanks guys.
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  6. #46
    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by Rogue Eagle View Post
    girls aren't even worth the trouble anyway.

    INFP is just a label, you can still be competitive and play to win :D
    No kidding. I play to win, play dirty, and usually come out on top. But i've been accused of being a bad INFP.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I have to admit that I partially agree with the OP's sentiments in that INFPs - I think not just males, but all INFPs - should attempt to overcome their pain, rather than wallowing in it endlessly. This is not to say that any expression of said pain should be mocked or ridiculed, but there needs to come a point when a transition is made from emotional to critical self-reflection.

    One of the main things that bothers me is not the fact that male INFPs are often in touch with and express their emotions, but rather insisting that they have it worse than their female INFP counterparts, particularly when it comes to romantic relationships. While I would think that it might be easier for many female INFPs to attract romantic attention, this is probably largely due to gender norms. Some male INFPs seem fixated on this single aspect of relationships, while ignoring the downsides that likely come with it, the main one being the struggle of having to reject potential mates in order to find Mr. Right (of course, this dynamic would be different in regards to same-sex relationships). I would imagine that many straight INFP females end up dating males for whom they have no interest because it would be difficult to outright reject them. *Just my two cents*


     
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