I am an INFP who has been struggling with the beautifully tragic idea of working it out with an INTP man for 10 years and 2 kids. This has so far turned out to be a very futile effort with lots of pain and agonizing heartbreak for me, the feeler. Everything that you said in your post rings eerily true. The fact of the matter, though, is that to him, I come off as too emotionally needy and neurotic and to me he can come off as much too cold and uncaring. He lies much too well for my taste. The problem is that I love him absolutely unconditionally and I tend to forget the hurt and focus on only the good. Which means I let my guard down only to be hurt all over again. He gets off on manipulating people in such a way that they don't realize that they are under his spell. It's all a game to him. And he will throw anyone under the bus to save face. Now, I promise you that I've done more than enough bad Shit to him in the past. This is just him from my point of view. The things that I love most about him is that he is so very intelligent and as much as I hate the fact that he can't feel for me as deeply as I do him, I also envy that about him. I wish I was a much more logical person than I am. Now, I'm sure that we are an extreme case, since he is an extreme thinker and I an extreme feeler, but just be careful, especially because you are the thinker and have the ability to turn the feeler into your very own puppet an hurt her extremely. Even if it is unintentional.