This is a discussion on What type of gifts do the INFP give away for the December holiday season? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Sily A large part of my family is. I was born'd in Maryland, USA. Hello Lithuanian! :-) ...
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For the romantically inclined, read below. I accidentally rambled, I'll toss that in a blog. So skip to beyond the quote :DFor gifts, I used to splurge on expensive big ticket items, the computers, the tvs, all that jazz. Nowadays I'm a little more careful with my money and realized that the people in my family aren't exactly appreciative types in general. I don't mind working a few extra hours to give them something of value (that they need), but you feel stupid when they're so quick to forget. I'm not saying I expect much in return, but it's not like it was easy peasy for me to get these things. Appreciation / recognition on a gift is all I need, I don't even need a tangible item in return.For girls I'm dating, I put the most immense level of thought into it (often months). One girl, that I had been dating for around 2 years, told me about a dream she had as a child. The dream was that her and a mysterious man (whose face she never 'actually' saw) were in the Eiffel Tower. It was peaceful, yet romantic. In the end they leaned into one another and had the most electrifying kiss that she will never forget. This was her reason for believing in soulmates -- something I admire greatly.
Anyways, I didn't really comment on her story at the time, but I never forgot it. At my age (20ish) I couldn't quite afford a trip to Paris, so I searched for a painting that resembled what she had mentioned. I searched tirelessly for months to no avail, but refused to give up. With Christmas looming in though, I decided I would make this gift extend to 3 parts. One particular painting stood out to me...
I thought it was fitting as, for the time being, we could only admire its beauty from afar. Yet, from the balcony, there was a setting for romance. When I gave her this gift I offered a promise, one that said "I'm sorry this is all I can afford right now ($400ish!), but I promise I will take you there some day. You won't know when, but I swear it will happen."
The next gift I had planned was the trip itself.
(Never happened, but I still intend to pay for her trip one day. We broke up for other reasons -- note: it's related to my first confession in the INFP confession thread).
The following was that I would find that painting I originally wanted -- the setting in the Eiffel tower, with two people together. I've seen similar to it, but not the vision she had told me about on our first date. I decided that I would pay an artist so that it would be an original painting.
So, I've shifted to smaller items nowadays. Often rummaging through thrift stores and garage sales for some interesting / unique items, but also low in cost. It's a bit of a treasure hunt, but sometimes seeing all sorts of items and then envisioning which person may enjoy it, is kind of interesting.
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I just made such a personalized photo calendar online for my mother's birthday. Had discount so costed me 5€. Think it's a nice gift. Photos of her children, grandchildren, our dogs & cats, mixed with landscape photos of where she is from, where we live, from Copenhagen etc.
I like to give things that really strike me as fitting that person's taste...a lot of times if I don't find something for them that does, they don't get anything, and I tell them that I couldn't bring myself to give them something lame like soap. Most of them understand, esp. becuase they know I'm poor. I do like to try to make things for people when I know they'd like it. An example is I'm planning to make a "Ranger's" vest out of oil-cloth for one of my friends so she can add it to her Lord of the Rings costume (which mostly just consists of a replica of Aragorn's sword at the moment). My mom says she wants lavendar sachets, but I am aldo going to try to make a decorated hat in maybe a 1920's style for her because she collects hats. At this point I really don't have any other ideas, but there aren't many people who actually would expect something from me.
For most of my friends, I'm going to make dreamcatchers for them - at least that's the plan as of right now, that may change in the next hour after I find my way to Michaels or Hobby Lobby.
My mom is getting a copy of two books that I have been trying to get her to read for over a year but because they're only available online, I couldn't get them for her.
I'm still trying to decide on a few other people... I want to do something special, but I'm uncertain what. Though I think I just figured out something that will work for one friend while typing this out....
Anywho, yes, this year I'm going with the cheap but handmade or at the very least sentimental route. I did it a few years ago and it went over rather well. :-)
Sorry for the double post, but since someone had mentioned it on my wall here's a quick set up of what I'm doing for the dreamcatchers. The one I just made is probably a good size to hang off a rear-view mirror
All my stuffs
Wrapping the metal in the leather thong