Well the reson is to aks for some advice...its about my relationship with my mother. She is typed as an ESFJ. I'm an INFP and we kind of clash. I don't feel we have a bond of unterstanding and acceptence.. or that could be just me. I'm very emotional, and she sees that as sign of weakness... whenever I show deep emotions she doesn't understand it. She gets mad of me, and says I'm inmature for letting myself go... but it is really that those emotions are me. I cannot change who I am. I could become more careless, more solid. But then I woudn't be myself anymore... What also ennoys me is that she has no imagination at all, obsesses about unimportant little details... she is also very rigid. Its her way or the highway. She doesn't like things that aren't usual. When I first expressed my love and feeling for the goth and alternative styles she kind of freaked out. She doesn't unterstand the beauty of it. She sees it as silly and or weird. The same thing about art. I go to art school, and she doesn't unterstand it at all... When she sees people who are diffrent she automaticly judgess them. She is always very chatty and positive to others. She has to have people around her and doens't unterstand my longing of solitude. To be alone from time to time. She sees my introversion and percheving as very bad qualitly. I aqtualy feel that deep down inside so looks a bit down on me. For being the way I am. I also see her as superficial. Always being so happy and caring for other. But aqtually she doen''st like all of those people. But she acts that way because she thinks it right. She values traditon and social convensions very much. I don't really care about such things... does that make me a bad person? Also, she isn't really envolved in the world and the big picture... like I can cry when I think at animals in a farm factory, Im vegatarion. She sees that as stupid and anjoying because she has to cook diffrent for me. She doens't deeply feel my reson for it. I could on and on about these things...Doesn't like mess either and is obsessed with her invironnement... She has to be in control of almost everthing. I feel a bit bad to be so negative. But the truth is that if she wasn't my mother I wound't want to deal with her at all... because of her personality. I hope you guys aren't offended by these tread of mine. But I hope you see were Im coming from. Do you know other ESFJ's? How do you deal with them? What of the INFP's traits annoyes ESFJ'S? What annoyes you about them? I really want to know how you think of this.
PS sorry for the grammar mistakes, English isn't my native language....