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This is a discussion on 《▪▪▪ Need an INFP group hug! within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Listen guys I need a team meeting here. I keep making that old mistake of falling to hard to fast ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    《▪▪▪ Need an INFP group hug!

    Listen guys I need a team meeting here.

    I keep making that old mistake of falling to hard to fast for people I show an interest in. It's getting to the point where it has happened 1 to many times and I feel jaded.

    So I could do with a bit of a hug and a little advice if you have any I'd deeply appreciate it.

    Long story short, me and a cracking girl hit it off for 4 months as friends then just before christmas I hinted at taking it further to which she went quiet. Now she's back with a bf and is too busy to spend time with me like we used to and I just feel meh.

    Like I say , one too many time and I could do with you guys helping me out. Looks like we'll still be friends but nothing like before.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    *Gives huge reassuring hug*
    I know how you feel. I used to have what I call 'Bella Swan Syndrome' which is a pathological desire to be in a relationship because it's the thing, and between the age of 13 and 16 I used to fall head over heels for any girl who showed the slightest bit of interest in me. But, since I'm only 5'7" and as skinny as a bag full of coat-hangers, all of these girls rejected me and made me feel depressed and unloved. The way I coped with this was to change my needy attitude and become fiercely independent and capable (and this was before I discovered that I was asexual and aromantic).

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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by A.J.Mulder View Post
    *Gives huge reassuring hug*
    I know how you feel. I used to have what I call 'Bella Swan Syndrome' which is a pathological desire to be in a relationship because it's the thing, and between the age of 13 and 16 I used to fall head over heels for any girl who showed the slightest bit of interest in me. But, since I'm only 5'7" and as skinny as a bag full of coat-hangers, all of these girls rejected me and made me feel depressed and unloved. The way I coped with this was to change my needy attitude and become fiercely independent and capable (and this was before I discovered that I was asexual and aromantic).
    Thanks for taking the time to reply A.J.

    I to am independent but everything just seemed to line up you know what I mean.

    Maybe I should just become detached...I look around at a lot of relationships and see angst and drama then think, man what does it say about me if I can't compete with that?

    Crazy days I tell you.

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    *hug*. *offers a heaping plate of cookies*

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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by snowbell View Post
    *hug*. *offers a heaping plate of cookies*
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    INFJ - The Protectors


    *INFP hug coming your way!*

    I've been in love a few times. Always one sided love, my crush never loved me back. It is shit, but you can't make someone love you.

    These 'setbacks' made me totally relaxed about not having relationship. At the moment I am very happy with my single life, so I don't really see the need for that to change. But but but. I refuse to believe that there is nobody out there for me! I am just not actively pursuing that special someone. When I meet this person, great! If we do not meet, so be it...wasn't meant to be.

    So don't become detached. You might not meet your soulmate if you become detached. Wouldn't that be a shame?
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by yippy View Post
    *INFP hug coming your way!*

    I've been in love a few times. Always one sided love, my crush never loved me back. It is shit, but you can't make someone love you.

    These 'setbacks' made me totally relaxed about not having relationship. At the moment I am very happy with my single life, so I don't really see the need for that to change. But but but. I refuse to believe that there is nobody out there for me! I am just not actively pursuing that special someone. When I meet this person, great! If we do not meet, so be it...wasn't meant to be.

    So don't become detached. You might not meet your soulmate if you become detached. Wouldn't that be a shame?
    Thats a gd point. Guess I need to trust life a little more.

    Might need to embrace it a little more.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Like Yippy said, if it doesn't work out you can almost frame it so that you can be thankful you didn't waste eachother's time. Sure, as INFPs it can take time to get over stuff like this, but you will, and you will find someone else eventually. :)

    A lot of people say they only found their partners once they stopped searching and focused on doing what they enjoyed. Which seems to make sense to me, while doing what you enjoy you usually give off a more confident, happy vibe. Because you are actually enjoying life more! haha

    EDIT: Almost forgot to give you a hug *hugs*
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by Vishnushiva View Post
    Like Yippy said, if it doesn't work out you can almost frame it so that you can be thankful you didn't waste eachother's time. Sure, as INFPs it can take time to get over stuff like this, but you will, and you will find someone else eventually. :)

    A lot of people say they only found their partners once they stopped searching and focused on doing what they enjoyed. Which seems to make sense to me, while doing what you enjoy you usually give off a more confident, happy vibe. Because you are actually enjoying life more! haha

    EDIT: Almost forgot to give you a hug *hugs*
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