[INFP] Any other INFPS out there hate/hated college?

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This is a discussion on Any other INFPS out there hate/hated college? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; I'm just wondering because I absolutely despise college. I'm a freshman right now, and I hate every moment I am ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    Any other INFPS out there hate/hated college?

    I'm just wondering because I absolutely despise college. I'm a freshman right now, and I hate every moment I am there. No one at college really seems to fit someone I'd like to become friends with. I come home every weekend because I love my high school friends. This past weekend was spring break, and I spend 3 days helping with the high school band festival, and I love it. I loved having inside jokes with all my friends again and fitting in. At college I just don't have that, and I miss the atmosphere of my home town while I'm there. It just seems like I'm always at school. Anyone else suffer or suffered something similar?
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I myself did better in college than in High school. Of course I was in my same town and had no need to make new friends. It sounds to me though that what you really dislike is being out of your comfort zone Having to put yourself out and socialize with new unfimilar people. Which I can totally relate to. I have not made may friends in college because I dislike the who courting process that goes along with meeting anyone new. Again though I do not have much need as all my friends are still here.

    I would suggest just giving it time. I myself felt like I could achieve more scholasticly in college where you are allowed to think a bit more freely than High school. So, I rather enjoy that aspect of it.

    As far as friends give it some time. If there are any clubs that interest you I'd give that a try. sometimes though certain semester you may just not have anyone in your classes worth meeting.

    so, I guess I'm just saying give it time. It's a new place that you need to transition into. and that may take you a while.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    My experience wasn't similar, but I did hate college the first two years.

    I went to the wrong school. Very small (1200 students). Very religious (Students would cite religious philosophy to back up their points in papers and debates. Teachers seemed okay with this. I couldn't take it seriously.). Located in a small town in the middle of nowhere (You had to drive forty-five minutes to get to a bookstore.).

    From the beginning, I knew it wasn't going to satisfy me academically, but I wondered if classes would get better after I got into my major. And then, I was kind of okay with it because I had a few good friend groups... So I was sad to leave after Freshman year. The beginning of Sophomore year, I became disillusioned with my sorority and knew that I would have to deactivate and there was a lot of drama in my main friend group. The school didn't offer the major I wanted. The only reasons to stay were my roommates from Freshman and Sophomore years.

    I felt guilty for leaving, but I am glad I left. The atmosphere is depressing. The only friendly people are the ones who work at the cafeteria, and if you walk around campus, it is so empty that you feel like you are in a ghost town.

    I've been antisocial where I am now, but I'm happier. My teachers have been a lot more supportive. I feel comfortable talking during class... Overall, it's a better environment.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    This sounds exactly like me in college. I loved high school and I had a great group of friends, but everything went down hill when I went away to college. There's no need for me to elaborate because you've already said exactly how I felt. A few classes were awesome and I'm glad I went, but it was harmful to my self-esteem not finding my place within a social group. Unfortunately for me it didn't change the whole 4 years and I remained unhappy in my situation until I graduated and moved back to my hometown.

    You still have time to fit in, so I hope I haven't discouraged you. If I had to do it over again I probably would have gotten more involved with things on campus. Meeting people in class was impossible for me. The only people I had to hang out with were the people I lived with and they were nothing like me.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I hated my first year of university. Mainly because I was a long way from where I previously lived, and I want to uni in London when I previously lived in the middle of the country side, was completely overwhelming! I found it hard to make friends when there were so many people in the lectures and I'm bad at starting conversations anyways :p
    However when I started my second year I decided I'd have to go out of my comfort zone if I wanted to enjoy my time there and make new friends. So I joined a few clubs that interested me and tried to be as extroverted as possible :p the first few weeks weren't good and I thought I just wasn't going to get anywhere...not just in uni but at life. I guess this made me realise that id have to start conversations and thankfully the majority of people were friendly enough to have a conversation, in fact some of them were just as shy or more shy than me and were grateful someone had made the first move!
    After a while I started to enjoy myself and made friends who I still keep in touch with, obviously I didn't become friends with everyone, but I'm glad I started conversations with most of the people I did :)
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I hated college too. I had a friendship group but they were so opposite that I knew I was only with them for the sake of having a group. Then when arguments started between people (as they inevitably do), I tried to be the mediator, but it ended up that everyone fell out with me over it. It wasn't that I wasn't tactful, it was that they wanted a good argument and I wanted to be neutral. I don't understand myself how it happened. But anyway, I ended up with no friends at all, and although it didn't stop me feeling low, I much preferred it to feeling low whilst having to socialise painfully every day. I've never been good at friendships, except with the couple of INFPs I know. But actually, being at uni is the first place I've been where I've had a few fairly good friends. :)

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I dropped out of college.

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    Unknown Personality

    I hated school and I hated college too. I went to local schools so I knew people and socialized with people I knew - but I've just never enjoyed being in an academic environment. It just shows to me how emotionally shallow people are, and I tend to feel a little bit overwhelmed.

    In my personal life I tend to be choosey about the people I surround myself with - I like to keep it simple and have like minded people who I know have a positive influence on me and keep any drama to limit. Classrooms have never helped me learn anything, just feel uncomfortable around people who I'm being forced to share a room with. No tact there, and this is why I never went to school :)

    On the plus side I'd like to think I'm intelligent when it comes to knowing the human nature but that's a life lesson not an academic one. /Rant over.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I've been at college for a couple of years. I can't honestly say I enjoy it...but it's still a dramatic improvement over the mind numbingly torturous shithole of a school I suffered for six years.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I aced my first semester, but only because my sister had the same exact classes and pushed me to do well. My heart wasn't in it an ounce. This semester we had no classes together, and I've all but dropped out (only one class left on my schedule, and I'm failing it).

    The only part I enjoyed was attending class because of some insightful professors. But the work, the atmosphere, everything else - loathed.

    I love to learn, but as soon as I'm being instructed what/when/how to learn, my brain instantly rebels and I can't even fake caring about it. I am working on willpower and self-discipline before I enroll again....if I do.

    Getting a degree is less about what you learn, and more about proving to employers you have the stamina to finish all those irrelevent credits. In my cynical view.
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