[INFP] Am I the only INFP who isn't too fond of INFJ's

Am I the only INFP who isn't too fond of INFJ's

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This is a discussion on Am I the only INFP who isn't too fond of INFJ's within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Of course, I do like a few INFJ's. I don't hate them at all; but SOME INFJ's are too quick ...

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    INFP - The Idealists


    Am I the only INFP who isn't too fond of INFJ's

    Of course, I do like a few INFJ's. I don't hate them at all; but SOME INFJ's are too quick to well, Judge.
    Am I misreading them or Is this just me?

    I see a few of them just butting into situations that have nothing to do with them.
    I know INFP & INFJ temperaments are supposedly similar; but I can't even see myself understanding them.
    I hardly understand them, is it maybe because I'm not one of them?

    Once again this thread isn't to start bullshit, Its an honest question.
    If you STILL think I am trying to start bullshit, Don't answer my thread, okay?
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    INFP - The Idealists


    this is a common issue that both types have with each other, you're far from the only person who's said this. their Ni makes their judgments seem like they come from nowhere, whereas INFPs have a tendency to reject group judgments/opinions or standards in favour of their own, which equally has the appearance of lacking evaluation. the two types in theory are only similar by virtue of their temperaments. other than that, INFPs and INFJs arguably have an entirely different approach to life even though their roads often lead to the same ends.

    some people don't like others who are too different from themselves. it all depends on what you're looking for in others and what you're comfortable with. In any conflict there is ignorance both ways so perhaps understanding them needs a fresh perspective. in my experience, some INFJs have been incredibly frustrating initially but after a while it became clear that they were as beautiful as any other NF. it can be quite humbling to observe how things would manifest if you were to approach the world in such an alternate light and learn from them about new ways in which life can be explored.
    Last edited by AbstractCanvas; 05-15-2015 at 07:11 PM.

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    I do like INFJs and INFPs, but from my perspective, you guys aren't very much alike. The difference between P and J preferencers is huge. It doesn't really matter if you share other cognitive functions or related ones, that last preference changes the expression completely. It's like saying INTJs and INTPs are similar, we are so chalk and cheese on several levels.

    It's also common for J types to come across as sticking their nose in where they aren't invited and coming across as judgey. You see what I just did there? You aren't asking for my opinion and I gate crashed your thread just because I thought I had insight into this and here I am being all judgey and stuff. We're not trying to be arses, we just can't resist an interesting conversation and since we're rarely invited we just show up of our own accord.

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    Well, I'm actually quite fond of INFJs, I married one and all. I get what you mean about them being really quick to pass judgement, often without sufficient data to make an informed and reasonable opinion, (thats true of her and the couple of other INFJs I know at least). I've always found it a bit ironic that while my background includes the military, teaching martial arts and various other bits and bobs of violent and conflict related activities the people who know us well, kids friends, pets etc. all see her as the scary one. It seems that when faced with a problem I want to understand it, she wants to flatten it (not in the physical sense). When faced with a sort of conflict my tendency is to analyze it and try to diffuse it through diplomacy, hers in many cases is to smash into it headlong full of righteous fury.
    The flip side of this is that she and I suspect many other INFJs will without hesitation take on seemingly insurmountable issues without hesitation, making other peoples issues their own and crusading on their behalf. Some years back, when we lived in an economically mixed ares in the city they were opening up a new school, the school board zoned the district in such a way that the poor kids wouldn't go to this school even though they were closer physically than the better parts of the neighborhood. When we found out we were both offended by this, my idea was to find out their reasoning and appeal to the school board, contact city council etc., she got on the phone and started calling newspapers, tv journalists etc., due to her efforts the zoning was fixed the same day. So I get how INFJs can be hard to deal with with at times, but they can also be sort of an inspiration in my experience.
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    My wife's best friend is INFJ. I don't know why the J means Judgement, but while I know she means well but her default setting in conversations is "sassy sarcasm". Fun when I'm drinking, and we want to make unfair judgments of everything on TV, but would get grating after a while.

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    I only know two consciously, and one of them I didn't know very well. The other is/was my best friend. I find myself drifting a bit from her lately. And I think another friend could be but she's not into the test like that.

    Anyhow I kind of get what you mean. They understand me better than most I know. But I do find myself wishing they wanted to expand their minds a bit more. Our discussions are pretty superficial though it may not appear to be so on the outside. Same goes for ENFJs I know. But I don't wanna say too much, because if it's about Ni, my SO is an INTJ and he doesn't mind having the sorts of discussions I find stimulating.

    I also met an INFJ online. I showed him a video I made with my INFJ "best" friend and he commented on how she seemed more confident in what she was saying (something I struggle to be because I only ever have hunches about whether or not anything I'm doing or saying makes any sense,) and how she was more outwardly expressive. This is something that helps create the divide between us when we talk amongst ourselves, though I'm kind of an ass because in an effort to show her things aren't black and white, I sometimes don't take in account everything she's saying and sound like a fool : / so, two-way street.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I've noticed there's really a very broad scale of different individuals among the INFJ's. I click with some amazingly, and with others - it's okay - I'm not fond of all of them. Yet, I have yet to meet one I didn't like, they're great people. I also like how good they (not all, but many of them) are at connecting and socializing with people, and choose me to be friends with me.
    It's nice when they reach out to you in the beginning stage of friendship. I mostly get along with them well.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by DaeyMarieisme View Post
    Of course, I do like a few INFJ's. I don't hate them at all; but SOME INFJ's are too quick to well, Judge.
    Am I misreading them or Is this just me?

    I see a few of them just butting into situations that have nothing to do with them.
    I know INFP & INFJ temperaments are supposedly similar; but I can't even see myself understanding them.
    I hardly understand them, is it maybe because I'm not one of them?
    This video by an INFJ may expalin a few things.

    Akaharu, WickerDeer, rawrmosher and 3 others thanked this post.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DaeyMarieisme View Post
    Of course, I do like a few INFJ's. I don't hate them at all; but SOME INFJ's are too quick to well, Judge.
    Am I misreading them or Is this just me?

    I see a few of them just butting into situations that have nothing to do with them.
    I know INFP & INFJ temperaments are supposedly similar; but I can't even see myself understanding them.
    I hardly understand them, is it maybe because I'm not one of them?

    Once again this thread isn't to start bullshit, Its an honest question.
    If you STILL think I am trying to start bullshit, Don't answer my thread, okay?
    you'd be so fond of me, i betcha billion dollars.
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    I am not a big fan of the writing I do when I get super stressed or emotional.

    And no--I don't have a problem with an MBTI group.
    Last edited by WickerDeer; 05-17-2015 at 07:27 AM.
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