I'm always even just a little worried that I may have posted threads like the one I THINK I'm posting for the first time before. I've been here a while and I'm internet-senile. So I apologize if this is the case.
I once read a post by someone whose name I can't recall, stating (if I recall correctly) something like:
I don't post for validation but I find myself concerned AFTER posting about how many 'thanks' I might get. (End)
Maybe this is my self-absorption talking but I feel like a lot of people here know how depressed I've been. And on my search to find the root of, or one of multiple roots of said depression, I'm now considering the possibility that it is partially due to my need for validation.
I quoted that person because they described exactly how I feel in other areas of my life. When I first do something, it isn't for the purpose of pleasing others. But it hurts when people not only don't understand what it is I've said or done, but respond with criticism and leave it at that. That's something I really dislike: People who spend copious amounts of time insulting you, but make no effort to tell you why what you've done is wrong (if needed,) and what you can DO to FIX IT.
I'm sharing this to hear from those who have gone through what they percieved this emotion I am feeling to be, and can explain what it is they've done to overcome it. I don't mind if this thread gets no replies..actually, I do, but I won't blame anyone. I just want the replies I do get, if any, to be of "quality" (if you can understand and resonate with what it is you feel I'm saying, I'd appreciate you conveying that feeling in your post.)
P.S. I'm sorry, but I'm done trying to sound selfless in any thread I create. I admire those threads where people can discuss a general idea without sound egotistical. But the fact is, I only understand things I'm going through, and I only post in hopes that I'm not the only one.