[INFP] Unemployed, depressed INFP seeks advice from fellow INFPS (or any Introverts)

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This is a discussion on Unemployed, depressed INFP seeks advice from fellow INFPS (or any Introverts) within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Hello, and thank you for taking the time to read this post. I've been reading threads on personality cafe for ...

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    Unemployed, depressed INFP seeks advice from fellow INFPS (or any Introverts)

    Hello, and thank you for taking the time to read this post. I've been reading threads on personality cafe for awhile now, and decided to join so I could connect with you all. I really don't know other INFP's, but my husband is INFJ/INTJ (he likes to say that he is INFJ with me and INTJ with everyone else lol). The reason for starting this thread, is I am an unemployed, depressed INFP. From what I've read, my situation doesn't seem to be that unique among INFP's. I graduated from college in 2014, and since then have been jumping from job to job, each one making me more miserable than the last. I studied Studio Art/Graphic Design in college, but have been unable to find a job in graphic design past an internship. I tried freelance for awhile, but it really didn't go so well and I need a consistent paycheck. My husband is getting out of the military in a year, which we are both happy about, but I really need a job as we have a lot of debt and we don't know what's going to happen with him finding work.

    Besides the internship, the other jobs I've taken include customer service working in food service, receptionist, and as a rep for direct tv. These jobs have all been totally wrong for me, but of all of the hundreds of applications I've put in I really haven't gotten any better options. I did get a couple graphic design opportunities while trying to make it as a freelancer, and I regret not taking those now, as I might would have a good job now. I interviewed for a few really good jobs, but they always said they were choosing someone with more experience. I worked so hard in college and also worked two part time jobs as an art editor and graphic artist while going through college. I'm so sad that I can't find anything.

    I don't know what to do, I've still been applying for graphic design jobs, because I'm not qualified to do much else. The opportunities are scarce and I'm worried that I won't be able to get a job in my field because it's been so long since I graduated. I'm wondering if I should try to go back to school, but that would just add on more debt. And I don't want to go back to a customer service job. I quit all those jobs because they made me so unhappy, I used to nearly cry every day. I just wanted to die, I know that's dramatic but I was that upset, all the time. In most cases my husband had to talk me into quitting still, because I really do hate quitting anything. I'm still depressed now because I feel like there's just not a place for me, at least not in this city. I feel like no one wants what I have to offer. What should I do?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated whether it's for career, or just being able to cope in the real world as an INFP!



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    Aww, I am sorry to hear you are having such a rough time at this. I know us, INFPs, love to get caught up in our bigger picture and love to play out how everything may go. I think you just need someone to help get ya back on track with your Graphic design work. I would not give up on it so quickly. We all have some missed opportunities, so don't count yourself outta that career in graphic design yet. I know its kinda trite to say that there will be something else coming, but we gotta hold on to that kinda belief.

    I can relate as I got fired from my last job back in January last year. And after dealing with the fact I got fired and dealing with that. I too have been applying for jobs. But almost never hear back from them either, or the ones that do call you back you are not really interested in anymore, ugh those customer service jobs. So i know all too well how frustrating that can be on us, we cannot really separate ourselves from their problems and its so hard not to take them personally and it usually leaves us so drained after working those jobs.

    I hope you can realize its not over yet and that there is still time to find a good job. Despite what you are seeing right now.

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    I can relate to hating working in customer service. Right now I work in a book store which I actually do enjoy - because I love literature. However, I used to work in a grocery store and I would sometimes cry at work because of how emotionally draining it was for me. If I were you I would start creating more graphic design and meeting people who are also interested in the same thing, and let people you meet overall know you are good at graphic design. It sounds so easy said but hard to do, I know. What I'm trying to say is that you should not give up on your wish to do graphic design and get a predictable and consistent paycheck every month. Imagine how horrible and terribly sad it would be if a person has a dream of working with it, but gives up and works in customer service the rest of their life. I wish you good luck, and please do not give up because it IS possible, it IS POSSIBLE to fullfil this wish. Think of all the tools you have (I'm becoming my ENTJ dad now, trying to motivate an INFP), think of all the knowledge you have in your mind that you can use externally to create something and show people what YOU created.
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    I'm really sorry you lost your job, I hope you can find something soon! Thank you for the encouragement, it's really great knowing that other people get it. And I was thinking today that I really should work on building up my portfolio with some recent work, but lately I've felt like it's not going to make any difference. And when your depressed it's just really hard to do anything. But this helped motivate me to do that. Thank you!
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    Oh I only can imagine what it would be like that working at a grocery store, I was just at one today and was thinking how draining that would be. But I don't think I would mind working at a bookstore! I've been applying to Barnes and Noble for years lol. That's a really good point, I know I should be doing more work to add to my portfolio and I really should make an effort to get more involved. There's this huge graphic design group where I live and they have networking events *shudder* but I've been trying to get the courage to go to them for awhile. Thank you for the encouragement, it is very much appreciated!!

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    On this I must agree with you. I have identical impressions about working as a shop seller. It'd drain me to the end of my endurance probably. Working at a call center would be an ultimate nightmare for me, but it is so also for those who do it as far as I have heard.

    Sadly the graphic design is a bit like that. Most people work as freelancers and it makes their income quite irregular.

    At least there is one good side of it that it can be done remotely so maybe companies from other cities or even countries can give you something to do? You'd probably only need to go there a few times a year in such case. I'm not a graphic designer myself but I guess it should be the case similar to web development or programming where many people work from home.

    Quote Originally Posted by jemicu
    There's this huge graphic design group where I live and they have networking events *shudder* but I've been trying to get the courage to go to them for awhile. Thank you for the encouragement, it is very much appreciated!!
    I'd highly advice going there not only to learn something new, but also because it's very likely that some employers come there too with their job offers.
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    Do you have a bachelors? Are you in the US?
    I am a graphic designer with a BA and I work as a sub teacher when design work is slow. All you need to qualify is a BA and to pass an incredibly easy test called the cbest. It pays decently considering you are basically a glorified babysitter :D.
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    I'm in the same line of work and I have a history of depression/anxiety. I hated working for a company because you have no free reigns and you're on the clock to finish- very draining. I became extremely agitated having to be in that type of setting with such demands so, I left:

    I free lance and work from home now and it's been the best decision of my life. What you really need to do is stick to building up your track record/portfolio. It's a competitive field and you're basically a dime a dozen so, really grinding each day to get potentials and actual clients is a must; you can't afford to be lazy or put it off for a second.

    Once you get to that point where you give yourself a name- getting work won't be a problem at all. I easily make a good living doing this and it's absolutely the best.


    It's definitely not going to be easy. You need your own style and have a bit of something that no one else has to stand out. And again- you really need to hustle to get yourself known too but, trust me- it'll all be worth it. (I would literally soak in the bath for 3 hours at the end of the day to get rid of the anxiety I had to deal with by putting myself out there... keep in mind- I'm a very recluse type so, each day was total hell...but, I made it out in the end!).

    But yeah, you'll figure it out and it'll be okay. Just be consistent and take it little by little; you digest better in small bites rather than taking big chunks.
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    I know how you feel to a degree. My story has similarities in feeling but many differences in circumstance. Regardless, I'll spare you my personal details. Point is, I can relate in a convoluted sort of way.

    Basically, I know how it feels to be in a position that isn't a good fit. I know how draining that can be. My story doesn't involve customer service type roles but I can only imagine how that must have seriously felt like a slow painful death. I don't think you are being over dramatic at all. It's a very real struggle!

    I also know how hard it is to feel as though you want to break through some sort of professional barrier that seems as though it is impenetrable. Don't give up! Keep on putting yourself out there! I wish I had more practical advice for you, but being that I'm in a completely different field and know nothing about yours, I feel as though my input wouldn't be very valuable. I do want to send you some hugs though and some sympathy. I know it's not easy.

    I'm personally starting to think about looking into ...*dreaded sigh* ...networking with others. ...lol. I hate networking to find jobs and I imagine most introverts do as well, but it seems to me that it can be a great way to get your resume looked at rather than buried under a pile of others.

    Actually... come to think of it. Here's some practical advice. One thing I've noticed (and this is just going by my own field, so it may not apply to you) is that just getting your foot in the door is more than half the battle. Anytime people ask for advice on how to a get into my field, I tell them to get any job ... ANY job... within an organization that would have their dream job. It could be something as simple as working the mail room. Key is to get your name on the payroll. Next step would be to look for internal job postings for something more relevant to your actual desired career. In my company, our positions are attempted to be hired from within first, THEN they are sent outside if no one inside the company is qualified. So, imagine a nice graphic artist job pops up as you are working the mail room. You put your resume in... and you are the ONLY resume... add in the fact that you will have been friendly with people in your role in the mail room and have possibly even had some friendly conversations with the hiring manager. In that situation, as long as you are reasonably qualified, you have a REALLY good chance of getting hired. I've seen it happen before. It's a great strategy for someone starting out. Again though, I'm not sure that strategy would play out as nicely in your field as it seems to in mine, but I just wanted to share in case it has some sort of value for you.

    Anyway... I must say that I am a bit jealous that you are in graphic arts. I personally think that would be an awesome field to be in! It sounds as though you enjoy the work as well. That certainly goes a long way! I wish I could say the same about my career. It also sounds like you have acquired some good experience. Plus, you have your degree in the field. These are all positive things to try to keep in the forefront. I'm not trying to diminish your struggle, just trying to help you see the bright side perhaps? I really hope you get that big break that you deserve! Hang in there!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Engelsstaub View Post
    On this I must agree with you. I have identical impressions about working as a shop seller. It'd drain me to the end of my endurance probably. Working at a call center would be an ultimate nightmare for me, but it is so also for those who do it as far as I have heard.

    Sadly the graphic design is a bit like that. Most people work as freelancers and it makes their income quite irregular.

    At least there is one good side of it that it can be done remotely so maybe companies from other cities or even countries can give you something to do? You'd probably only need to go there a few times a year in such case. I'm not a graphic designer myself but I guess it should be the case similar to web development or programming where many people work from home.


    I'd highly advice going there not only to learn something new, but also because it's very likely that some employers come there too with their job offers.
    Yeah, I have tried to look for remote work in the past. Unfortunately sites like Upwork or Freelancer are now full of people from other countries that work as little as $3 a hour, making it nearly impossible to compete. But I have started to applying for remote jobs on Indeed and sites like that, and that would be awesome if I could get one since we are planning to move soon. And thanks, I agree that I need to start networking! I'm definitely going to look for some events to go to.


     
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