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This is a discussion on Insecurities. within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; I echo a lot of the rest of you. I am insecure about my appearance. Some days i feel really ...

  1. #31
    INFP - The Idealists

    I echo a lot of the rest of you. I am insecure about my appearance. Some days i feel really good and then I look in the mirror and realize I don't look as good as I feel. My hair bothers me, it's all broken and raggedy because i play with it too much. And the main place I ever get fat is on my belly. Some women get it in their ass, in their hips, their thighs. Not me, I get instant beer gut if i'm not careful. It really bugs me because if I wear a form fitting shirt, I feel like I always have to suck in.

    Also insecure about my past mistakes. I have some regrets and I wish a lot of them would just go away and never have the potential to come back and haunt me.

    I am generally insecure after a conversation with someone where i did a lot of talking. I will go home and feel like I said too much or that I was boring them or talking too much about myself and not enough about them. I suppose this can be summarized into having an insecurity surrounding conversation.
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  2. #32
    INFP - The Idealists

    Insecurities, I have a lot, but then again, too many to mention.

    - I feel I will never have a job that will provide security for my future wife and children
    - I'll probably never have a wife
    - Therefore I'll never have children
    - If I do have a wife she'll probably leave me
    - If I have children they'll probably leave me
    - I'll be lonely for the rest of my life
    - Or live with mom until she dies, then be lonely
    - I'll never be independent of living off of other people's charity
    - I don't have the capacity to learn as quickly as others
    - People tend to pity me more than others
    - My BA degree is a phony--I couldn't possibly have been smart enough to graduate college
    - I'm overly-formal with most people
    - I can talk about anything, albeit only on the shallowest of levels
    - People don't get as close to me as they do with their other friends
    - The great accomplishments that people think I've done were all half-assed attempts and not nearly as cool as they sound
    - I resist a lot of technology people are into. Soon I'll be obsolete myself

  3. #33


    I worry that I'm not creative enough. I used to be very creative and into art when I was a kid, but I seem to have lost touch with that part of me. As a result, I end up feeling like I'm just like everyone else (which is another fear.)

    Feeling like I'm just like everyone else. If I have no unique qualities to offer, I feel like my life is pointless. I want to be unique and provide others with some sort of personal gift.

    I worry about my ability to do things. Even common, everyday things can be tricky for me and I feel like if others became aware of that that they would laugh at me or think I was a joke. Because of my mom's overprotective nature and the fact that she's always tried to do everything for me means that I lack basic skills. I also feel that I don't meet the requirements in the working world and it provides a lot of anxiety.

    I'm insecure about the way that I appear to others. I feel like my appearance isn't good enough because my clothes, hair, and skin aren't as nice as other people's. I'm also insecure about my speaking and social skills. I don't really know how to communicate with others in person because I haven't had much practice. I feel like others can see that and that I look stupid.


    Like I said above, I feel like my clothes, hair, and skin aren't good enough. I can't afford to buy a new wardrobe every season or to even have a complete wardrobe, so I end up wearing the same outfits over and over again. I know logically that no one probably pays attention to what I wear, but I still feel like they notice. In addition, my hair is very dry and frizzy and I can't be bothered to style it half the time. I worry about what that reflects about me. Regarding my skin, I have struggled with acne since I was 10. I feel insecure about the scars the pimples have left on my face and my pimples and blackheads themselves. I am so jealous of people with perfect skin. I wish I had that too.

    I am also insecure about my face. I hate having no upper lip and I think my nose is too bulbous and prominent on my face. I am really tempted to have both surgically altered but then I could possibly feel fake afterwards.

    But I have a love-hate relationship with my nose. It reminds me of where I came from. My mom has a very similar nose and so does her mother (my grandma) and my grandma's father. I call it the "Ukrainian peasant nose". So to get rid of that would be kind of sad.
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  4. #34
    INFP - The Idealists


    I agree with Blissfuldreams ; I worry about my creativity and uniqueness.I want to stand out, and not seem like everybody else.Sometimes that's hard to do while still remaining within your shell.

    I also feel like I'm self centered.Sometimes I can care less about whatever somebody is telling me.I forget to think about others. Some people don't really tell me anything anymore because I often tell people..I don't see a reason why they are hiding what they are, and simply tell others, without considering their emotions.

    I also seem a lot more feminine than most males my age, which bothers me.People have judged me, and I'm still afraid of people doing that.I was once in line for something when a group of guys behind me whispered "gay ass", without knowing me.


    I have acne, but luckily it's slowly disappearing.
    I dress horribly.I don't see why people care about what they dress in,but sometimes I'm worry about what other people think.I wear the same clothes often, and the clothes are a lot less nicer than what other people wear.
    My posture is weird for a guy.I don't stand straight, but rather with my butt out (lumbar lordosis), which is probably the reason people assume I'm homosexual.
    My hair is poofy and shaggy.I don't have short,clean hair..
    I also have a small sebaceous cyst (repeat ; small.Dont believe the google images crap) on my finger.During music class,I hide it while the teacher helps/observes my guitar skills.Its become such habit, I hide my fingers regardless of what hand it is,or if it even has a cyst on it.

  5. #35
    INFP - The Idealists

    That I'll be judged on the people I love (I.e. gender)
    That I'm a big hypocrite.That I'm selfish,judging,ignorant and narcissistic without knowing it.
    That people will forget about me, or if not, they'll remember me as a dull quiet person.

  6. #36
    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by BensUsername View Post
    Everyone has insecurities that plague them (well, I assume everyone does). Mine include having no artistic ability, not being original in how I express myself with words, seeming 'creepy' or unfriendly to others, being a joke to other people, etc.

    What do other infps sometimes feel insecure about?
    Those are exactly my insecurities.

  7. #37
    INFP - The Idealists

    What is a man but a miserable pile of insecurities?

    With that in mind, a comprehensive answer would have me typing here for weeks, so I'll narrow it down. The root of my insecurities is my own inferiority, specifically with regards to relationships. I don't like to admit it but I am the sort who seems to require frequent - e.g. weekly or even daily - reminders of my worth and the strength of my friendships, lest I feel that things are slipping. Granted the reminders aren't much, all I need is a friendly message or something similar, but without them even the strongest friendships falter as I recede into my deep dark tunnel of brooding and self-criticism. Romantic relationships are even more unstable. I simply don't feel like I could ever actually be important to someone, and given how passionately I feel about those I hold dear, I have extreme difficulty accepting that anyone could ever feel as strongly for me as I do for them.

    Physically I'm a wandering bundle of insecurities, but as I can't do anything about those, I try not to dwell on them.

  8. #38
    Unknown Personality

    Triggering the pet peeve of an admired person. -_- Hurts and bothers so much.

  9. #39
    INFP - The Idealists

    I just disovered this website, the other INFPs, and your post. I wish I hadn't missed out on the discussion, which happend almost a year ago. Reading your post is like hearing myself think. Nice to know I'm not so alone in my INFP weirdness.
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  10. #40
    INFP - The Idealists

    Thank jebus someone made a thread about this. i needed to vent without looking like a compliment fisher.
    i'm pretty sure i'm ugly
    i'm not stupid but by acting happy i come off as really idiotic
    i flip back and forth between being loving my body and thinking i'm a fat cow (but i'm changing that. yay!)
    my face pisses me off
    i want friends but as soon as i make them i don't like them anymore
    i don't think my artistic skills are good enough for the college i want to go to
    i have NO FRIGGIN IDEA what i want to do with my life and i hate having to say that to people
    sometimes i think i'm picky just because i know i could never find a partner even if i tried
    i'm pretty sure i'm going to die a virgin
    i love sleep more than life itself
    i can't connect with ANYONE

    i guess this can all be summed up as "essential teenage bullshit" lol. no biggie. i'm sure i'll get over it!
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