This is a discussion on Any other numb INFPs who have lost the "rose-colored glasses"? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Sily My rose-colored glasses are in good working order. I clean them off every morning with my ...
Just like real sunglasses I lose them then i find them then i lose them and so on.
I don't see the world through rose colored glasses, but I am hardly numb. For years I chose to ignore what needed attending to in my life, and sadly, to find a place of bliss I must first feel the pain.
So I am working on changing my perception of things. In this, I'm reminded of a quote from Blake, The Marriage of Heaven and Hell:
"If the doors of perception were cleansed every thing would appear to men as it it, infinite."
In another poem, Blake refers to "mind-forg'd manacles." These are the fetters we impose on ourselves, and I struggle to liberate myself from them. Who knows, once I free myself of their influence, my next purchase should be a pair of rose colored glasses? LOL, a little too much optimism for me at the moment.
I'm sure all of us misplace our rose-color glasses once in a while because reality can be harsh no matter what color lens you're seeing it through. For most of us it probably hits hard because somewhere deep down I think INFPs need to have hope to feel fulfilled.
We live in a world full of moments and possibilities of immense pain and at the same time possibilities of immense happiness, hope, and inspiration still exist. Somewhere out there right as you read this someone is having the worst day of their life and somewhere else someone is having the best day of their life. If you visit a hospital someone may be having the joyous experience of a birth of a child while someone else experiencing the loss of a loved one. The thing is that those are two experiences that the same person who experiences the joy of a birth will surely have in their life at some point or another. I think we have to struggle to be optimists otherwise, as INFPs, we can be taken on a downward rollercoaster into the depths of all things depressing.
I was extremely depressed for a long time at one point in my life and now that I've come out the other side I see that there is always hope. Remember too that the only reason why good things in life can exist is because bad things also exist. Without bad and the possibility of worse, how could anything good exist? It would be like like living in a world of a black and white painting without any black in the image to contrast the white. Nothing would exist. White couldn't be differentiated from anything without black. Before we were born we seemingly existed or didn't exist at all in a place with no contrast and thus no measurable meaning (at least as far as what we can see). By being alive in a place where we can experience the bad we have the gift to be able to experience something good.
No matter who you are or where you are in your life when you read this message, I hope that you can ultimately find peace and happiness :)
On a side note, in terms of physical glasses I find that brownish-yellow sunglasses filter out a lot of the hazy light blue light spectrum and really brings out colors and contrast. They really bring out the vibrant greens in nature, the deeper blues of the sky, and the deep rich reds and yellows of flowers as well as the contrast in the depth of clouds. I highly recommend brownish yellow sunglasses, especially for INFPs. :)
To clarify here is an example: My latest dream was to find a cabin in the woods and live simply and write and do art. I found the area, researched it, found possible work there, organizations to meet people, and the actual little cabin at a good price. Even drove some of the family out there and showed them. They were not impressed and said I would get bored and tired of living out there and that the living was too hard for a sustained life out there. At first I was rebellious and continued on with my plans. But suddenly--and the balloon of my dreams always seems to pop suddenly--I realized that heating with a wood stove, using an outdoor biffy, carrying in water might be perfect for some people but I am more of the sit-and-read-and-write type, not all that physical. And here I was planning to move to a very physical lifestyle. Probably better in my dreams than in actuality.
Most of my dreams are like that but it used to be so exhilarating to come up with a fun dream and plan out each step. I have a history of trying out those dreams and none of them have stood up to the reality and have been a disappointment. Now after doing it for years and still not finding "the dream" I'm more than a bit disillusioned, confused and also a bit lost. It's like the fun has gone out of my life....any advice or comments?
@Shadmax : I can relate a lot with what you've said above..you're not alone.
perhaps this is why I'm now sort of half-retreating into researching to 'escape' this so-called "real world".. ie: all the astral projection, NDE, OBE, Ascension 'new-agey' stuff, UFO, 2012, etc..
Reality sometimes can be too 'harsh' isn't it?
although I've heard a phrase that "difficulties and hardships and problems are meant to make u GROW and more fully-developed person", and "Life is about learning", and also "anything of great Value is always worth fighting for! the harder the fight, the more worth the fight!"
and I think there's indeed some good learning values in those remarks as well..
like my glasses irl i think i keep stepping on my rose colored glasses. it's rare for me to see the world in a shade that makes everything considerably more copacetic than things tend to actually be, or at least how i settled on viewing things. on that note i really have to break the habit of stepping on my rims, i really don't have the money and it really is nice to see things without having to get within 5 feet of the object of my desired scrutiny.
it goes to show you what's real.