Any other numb INFPs who have lost the "rose-colored glasses"?

Any other numb INFPs who have lost the "rose-colored glasses"?

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    Any other numb INFPs who have lost the "rose-colored glasses"?

    Don't worry, I'm not suicidal. I've learned to deal with it to some degree, and then there is the occasionally coffee or beer that stirs some feeling.

    I remember while growing up feeling a wave of emotions. Everything felt significant but now I'm not sure what is important. I have bouts of inspirations, but they are short-lived and replaced by a feeling of indifference. Out of all of those childhood emotions it seems one of the only ones left is anxiety, aside from the sensations of food, coffee, and beer.

    My mind has great denial mechanisms that prevent me from thinking about this subject too much in fear of inducing depression again, but this voluntary ignorance has me running in circles.

    I'm not very sensory and I'm also not much of a thinker, so having such a limited spectrum of emotions really makes life bland. Nothing seems that meaningful in the grand scheme of things, and I believe I reached this conclusion with my mind rather than some string of emotions.

    Anyone else in this boat or a similar one?
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I think Many INFPs have the same issues! I cant tell you anything specific preventing to this issue but I know the feeling!
    I have a job where I have to use my inspiration all day long. In order for INFPs to function properly we need to encourage our inspirational sides more than ordinary things random people would do...

    The state youre in is the exact state im in now, but the latest months Ive been doing things differently.
    For a start I take everything I think Im bad at and do something about them. And I do that with the knowledge of my personality (That im capable to learn or fix anything) And I think its almost the same for all INFPs.

    When I feel indifference is when I dont do much at all, If I dont use the things I have in my mind the anxiety takes over quickly... so constant flow of activities could be a sollution??

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I have been there for a long time. If you find a way out let me know. I was my rose glasses back. I liked see the world from them.

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    INFP - The Idealists

    I get like this when I'm medium/mildly depressed, or when the circuits blow due too overwhelming conflicting emotions. I recently discovered St. John's Wort, it's supposed to be good for both anxiety and mild depression, and that's actually on of the first things I noticed, that my emotions were clarified, like I could feel each emotion more clearly. Even mild depression is like a wet blanket I think, obscuring diversity of feeling. Don't think I've quite lost the rose colored glasses though! :)

    I agree with taking action too, sometimes even taking the smallest steps toward anything, anything you want to do or accomplish, anything you may really NEED to do or accomplish, just doing something about it, no matter how small, that can feel really great, and liberating emotionally! This seems to apply to everything, from cleaning to entertainment.

    Anyway, good luck. Oh, and sometimes stream-of-conscious journaling can help too. Especially when it comes to thoughts, it's amazing how emotionally liberating it is to just get whatever thoughts may be swirling in your mind out, from the simple to the profound.

    Oh (wow, I keep thinking of things) I recently did this writing exercise, writing about a scene remembered from childhood, just writing nonstop for 2 minutes recalling everything i could, the thoughts and emotions and senses of the moment I was remembering, it was surprisingly refreshing, inspiring, and, I can't think of any other way to put it so I'll say it again, emotionally liberating.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I think I lost my innocence a long time ago- probably in my early childhood. I was always the peace keeper in a chaotic house. I still am trying to figure out ways in my mind to make life better for as many people as possible. The next step is to act on those thoughts and make something happen. The actions are where I really run into difficulty.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I felt this way for a very long while. And I still do at times. The thing that seems to work best for me is finding someway to stimulate my senses- like goin for a walk in the forest or sumthin- and that usually leads to me feeling less apathetic and more emotional and receptive. A creative outlet has helped me out a lot too.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I still have them, i can see the beauty in most things, but when its time of depression or confusion they are misplaced for a while until i can center myself to find them again.
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    Unknown Personality

    a friend of mine always said... the darkness defines us.

    the greatest hurtles present the longest periods of pain.
    but the light will pour through those glasses once more. most likely in greater amounts.

    I know so. find your happy place and follow the path before you...
    and if you have not found it. don't fret. it's probably just waiting to be found.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    It sounds like you've lost hope.
    Think about what you want,
    take the steps to get there.
    Hope it will happen one day.

    It's like the last line in the "Shawshank Redemption",

    "I hope to see my friend Andy again, I hope, I hope, I hope."

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Up until very recently I had been feeling numb. Not unhappy, just numb. I had totally lost my sense of awe and didn't seem to feel any strong emotion good or bad, because I just rationalized everything to death. I got out of it by realising what I had been doing. By telling myself it was OK to express my emotions even if they hurt someone else, because by not doing so it was hurting me. I opened myself up to hurt, and it opened me up to joy as well. And I also opened up my mind again to things that interested me, rather than just going along with what everyone else wanted and liked - I have created space for myself to spend time on my own, which I had previously forgotten I needed, and I'm stubborn about having it and instead of messing up my relationship with my husband like I feared it would, it actually seems to have strengthened it, because I am becoming more like the me that he initially fell in love with.

    I don't know if anything of my experience will help you because I don't know what has caused your numbness. But if you think that you have lost all emotion and enjoyment of life, I think you'll have to figure out why you are repressing your feelings, and once you figure that out, you'll start to feel them more directly.
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