I always find myself helping people even if i dont want to. I feel like its an obligation when i know damn well its not. I just think about how if I were in their position id want help to... then again i dont ever really ask anyone for anything.
At the same time I'm growing extremely frustrated with myself for always wanting to help even at my own expense/ if im not in the mood/ dont feel like being bothered by people.
Whats the best way to say no, without lying or making an excuse. I really want to just plainly say "No,sorry" or something more forward : "No, i dont want to". Idk ive learned that it takes a strong person to continuously be generous to those who can do little for you in return.. think im tired of being strong,lol. I think im more afraid of what happens when i say no - how do you calm your mind and tell yourself thats ok?