[priestess]

I read the INFP & sex thread and I guess the consensus is that INFPs are not the type to engage in casual sex.

Does this also mean that INFPs would most definitely, most probably not commit infidelity or be involved in an affair?

Have any of you been in an affair or know of an INFP who has?

[Tkae]

What I've read about INFPs and fidelity is that usually most stay committed to a relationship.

And the rare few that do it once learn VERY quickly not to do it again, but most of us know from the get-go that it's a bad idea.

Our empathy makes it excruciating to cheat, since we'll tear ourselves apart from the guilt. It's an excellent deterrent, and guarantees that most of us don't do it to begin with. It's why we're probably the most faithful of all partners -- we'll beat ourselves up over it, and we know it, so we don't do it to begin with.

[pikmenbattlehealer]

I'm more Fe minded than typical, so it adds to it. But you're right, not in sexual terms.*(i' supposing). However, when i used Fi- much more--it was less likely of a thought. I'm also liked by a lot of girls, not for who i am. THey have an idealized image of what i am, and i probably hold the other infp typical attractions. Either case---because i know their love is surface---i'd be willing to exploit it in my imagination. But a stud infp male, is also a loser in other areas, and quite lazy. Oh, not a real stud, i'm a tad chubby.:) and my language and world view comes off a tad NT'ish. I've heard this sort of turns off girls, which is good that I rarely talk.

[A Better Tomorrow]

I would never cheat on a significant other.

[Zygomorphic]

I would never cheat on a partner. At the most, however, it would be quite possible that I choose to formally end my current relationship to start another if I truly believe the other has more potential and I am not satisfied with my current.

[gloosle]

I could never cheat on a significant other, even if I wanted to. It would destroy me.

I had a girlfriend once who told me she has cheated on every boyfriend she had except for one. This drove me insane. I became so subconsciously worried that she would cheat on me at some point. I interpreted every little thing like a hint she was cheating...well a little bit of an exaggeration. But I was constantly worried about it.

However, in my little fantasy mind, "cheating" happened all the time....But in real life, I couldn't do it.

[priestess]

Thanks for the responses thus far. Like casual sex, there seems to be a strong consensus among INFPs about the impossibility of ever engaging in an extramarital affair or committing an act of infidelity. This is an honorable stance.

It is, as I had suspected, unrequited love for me.

[Mandarin]

Honestly, I get so embedded in the relationship I'm in and focus so much energy on the person I'm with that cheating doesn't even cross my mind, even when things aren't going so well.
What Zygomorphic said rings true for me too though...I chose to end my first "real" relationship after two and a half years when I finally realized we had some major clash of ideals, and that something was just missing. It took another guy entering the picture for me to fully come to this realization. The new guy and I were purely friends until after I broke things off with my boyfriend, but I felt a little guilty about it for a long time afterward because it still sort of felt like cheating in retrospect. I don't know...I've grown a lot since that first relationship.
As long as I feel there's even a remote thread to hang onto, I'm fiercely loyal and committed.

[Becks]

Yeah, I would definitely never cheat on someone or have an affair. I guess I just think the person I'm with deserves the respect to not be cheated on. I wouldn't have a problem with ending a relationship if I find there to be greener pastures elsewhere. It just seems very selfish to me for people to have affairs, I'd rather have someone dump me to be with someone else than cheat on me.

[SVALP]

I can relate to what most other INFPs have said. I would be completely incapable of cheating on someone. I would just feel terrible about it, and would not be able to live with myself. If for some reason it happened, I would tell my partner.

Besides, if I was in a relationship where I felt the need to cheat, I wouldn't be in such a relationship to begin with. I want too much out of a relationship to be with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship.