am late for work but will edit later to insert all the tact. general shot-across-bows for people unfamiliar with the recurring derails on the original gooey feels thread:
this is not a conversational milieu. you're welcome to read, but it's important to understand that people posting here are not inviting a conversation about what they post. and they won't welcome it. expanding here to say this should be assumed to include such one-on-one channels as private messages and comments on the poster's visitor wall.
so if you feel an urge to advise a poster, tell a poster your own feelings based on their feels, think you know the answers or just generally have an opinion that wasn't asked for, please take it outside of this thread. and even then, be aware that unless the poster has actually said they wouldn't mind being approached, the chances are still pretty good that you'll be crossing a line. no matter how good your intentions are, no matter how much you feel like you'll die if you don't get to chip in.
informal studies have shown that intjs (and for all i know other types too) genuinely appreciate having a place where they can express themselves without entering into some implicit 'social contract' that obligates them to put up with other people's two cents about whatever they have just said. those who get it won't need that justified. and those who don't can no longer say they weren't warned.
thank you. i made minor edits to this, by the way.
this is not a conversational milieu. you're welcome to read, but it's important to understand that people posting here are not inviting a conversation about what they post. and they won't welcome it. expanding here to say this should be assumed to include such one-on-one channels as private messages and comments on the poster's visitor wall.
so if you feel an urge to advise a poster, tell a poster your own feelings based on their feels, think you know the answers or just generally have an opinion that wasn't asked for, please take it outside of this thread. and even then, be aware that unless the poster has actually said they wouldn't mind being approached, the chances are still pretty good that you'll be crossing a line. no matter how good your intentions are, no matter how much you feel like you'll die if you don't get to chip in.
informal studies have shown that intjs (and for all i know other types too) genuinely appreciate having a place where they can express themselves without entering into some implicit 'social contract' that obligates them to put up with other people's two cents about whatever they have just said. those who get it won't need that justified. and those who don't can no longer say they weren't warned.
thank you. i made minor edits to this, by the way.