My fellow INTJ's what constitutes a "connection" for you? How do you know you have chemistry with someone & are clicking or hitting it off with them? Please describe your experience with either a platonic, or romantic interest.
I personally feel a connection to someone when we can communicate non-verbally & they understand & respond accordingly. I think my eyes & facial expressions are quite expressive. Another strong indicator for me is physical touch, non-sexual of course. When conversation flows smoothly & isn't forced. Sometimes you just "click" with someone & it's instant. I have felt that "chemistry" with a potential SO & it feels like a tingling inside, excitement of what might be. My mind starts to race, & I can't stop thinking of all the possibilities. It really doesn't happen very often for me, so I was wondering, if you all have had that experience, & if you were able to pursue that connection?
I have had about 3 female friends who I instantly hit it off with but our friendships were short lived because they moved away. As for the guys it's been about 5 but we never continued contact past the initial meeting. So in those cases it must have only been on my part because otherwise I'm sure we would have exchanged contact info. It's just something about those individuals I can't forget & wonder, what if?