We speak here about how INTJs try to excel at everything and optimize everything, including the act of loving their partners. What I've almost never seen discussed is, what they expect in return.
Queasy topic to bring up/discuss. But what the hell... no one is a pure "giver"; there's got to be some "taking" as well to maintain fairness, balance and equilibrium in the long term.
Sure, an INTJ likes to feel like 'they've done it all correct and have won the round'. :) I wonder what the partner might be able to do to help the INTJ feel good about the whole thing.
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Let me clarify what I am looking for. Sorry it wasn't clear enough the first time.
In your reply, if possible:
1. Please answer from two distinct points of view: 'General love' and physical intimacy
2. Please indicate whether you are a male/female (if you think the distinction matters and if you are OK to reveal this about yourself)
Reg: point 1. The reason I asked to distinguish is that while giving alone-time and a lot of room might be a really nice thing for an INTJ from their partner, the same cannot be extrapolated to intimacy, since by definition, intimacy cannot be about 'leaving someone alone'. :) Therefore, to me, the two states are likely to be very different, especially for INTJs.
Thank you forum people, for you all actually take the effort to answer sincerely (can't say that about some other fora).