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This is a discussion on ENFP Going On First Ever Date With An INTJ within the INTJ Forum - The Scientists forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by Catwalk It was not a wish, darling. Just a fact waiting to happen. Any caveman would have ...

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    ENFP

    Quote Originally Posted by Catwalk View Post
    It was not a wish, darling. Just a fact waiting to happen. Any caveman would have said same.



    Back to the INFJ's, I reckon? The NFPs? Or perhaps we are feeling a little sensory now.
    You were remarkably quick to judge me without doing the requisite research on what actually occurred on the INFJ board last year. I'm not quite sure where your particular stance comes from as I don't believe we've interacted before, but do what you wish. I still would prefer either an INTJ or INFJ, yes. But I am open to any intuitive type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moby View Post
    You were remarkably quick to judge me without doing the requisite research on what actually occurred on the INFJ board last year. I'm not quite sure where your particular stance comes from as I don't believe we've interacted before, but do what you wish. I still would prefer either an INTJ or INFJ, yes. But I am open to any intuitive type.
    Well. Good luck to you, darling. I do not have much else to say.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moby View Post
    The INTJ ended up ghosting me when I tried to firm up plans for the second date. So you got your wish ;)
    No point following up with a text on how socially inappropriate ghosting is, I personally can't see an INTJ caring much if I replied with a scold. The decision was made for whatever reason and it's done.

    I do consider ghosting a reprehensible behavior by those unwilling to send a quick authentic note that they're not longer interested for whatever reason. It's only happened once before to me luckily, and I consider someone who does it to have the value somewhere between the HIV virus and a parasitic worm :)
    I am not a fan of ghosting, period. It’s a devaluing thing to do.
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    So...I'm floating this post tonight because the INTJ I went out with and ghosted me has reappeared. I have become a co-organizer of the MBTI Meetup in my city and she joined it and saw me as a co-organizer. She reached out to me via text and messaging on Meetup.com to say hi and that she saw me there...And she pretended like everything was normal.

    I had none of it and called her on her ghosting. She said she didn't understand that "the second date you asked me on was a date" and that "I use Match.com to find friends as well as dates". She said she ghosted because she didn't know how to tell me she just wanted to be friends and when I didn't chase her to talk about other things she thought I was no longer interested in her.

    Truth, because I don't respect ghosting. I never chase.

    I tried to have a constructive conversation with her. I decided being crystal clear with her was the best option.

    Told her:

    1.) Friendship is not what I was looking for with her.
    2.) That I have lost respect for her powerful mind with her ghosting.
    3.) She picked the only wrong option - I would have been respectful and understood if she didn't want the 2nd date but communicated that to me instead.

    I told her I wanted to conversation to be constructive. So I wanted her to know at the MBTI meetups I would be respectful, but would purposefully chose to sit away from her and focus on getting to know the others.

    Turns out my book I gave her wasn't the scare off I guess.

    Here's the thing. I thought an INTJ would be literal enough to know:

    1.) We met on a dating website
    2.) We just went on a date
    3.) The man asked her out again the day after the date. It's a 2nd date.

    How does she say she didn't get if it was necessarily romantic or not? I was railroading this thing along the typical dating path lol.

    Oh well, at least some closure.
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