hI AND WELCOME! Whats Up! As The INTJ. Whether Guy/Gal(G) What makes you Happy?Psychologists have found that we’re terrible at perceiving our own happiness and estimating what will or will not make us happy. People who had won the lottery weren’t any happier than people who had become paralyzed or people who were neither lottery winners nor paraplegics. A UN study found that above a middle-class income, money has no direct correlation to happiness. Rich people report being just as happy as they were when they were average and vice versa.You can be rich, famous, have everything you ever wanted, but if you feel like you had no control of it, like you didn’t deserve it or earn it, you will be miserable. Ever wonder why so many celebrities and millionaires become addicts or even kill themselves? There you go. Research suggests that about 50% of our baseline happiness is genetically inherited. This would also explain the heritability of depression, addiction and negative personality traits such as neuroticism and lack of agreeableness.
If dad was a miserable dick, unfortunately that means you’re pre-disposed to be a miserable dick. But the good news is that there’s still 50% of our baseline happiness we have control over.
When most people seek happiness, they are actually seeking Pleasure: Food,SEX,TV Friends Parties Etc. But Happiness does not equal Pleasure(Happiness=/=Pleasure). Pleasure is a false god. Research shows that people who focus their energy on materialistic and superficial pleasures end up more anxious, more emotionally unstable and less happy in the long run. See Source for full info:Mark Manson In his book"THE
GUIDE TO HAPPINESS.
Based on this website https://www.the16types.info
This is what makes you Happy???
- being alone
- solitary pursuits
- making decisions by oneself
- carrying out solo activities
- not getting involved
- freedom of action
- keeping one's distance
- sexual pleasure
What you Hate
- being involved in a group
- other people (because they are intrusive)
- close relationships
- being encumbered by other people
- being encumbered by employment
- actions by others that represent encroachment
- close encounters
- having to share decision making
- showing feelings
- sexual experiences with others
- social responsibilities
Gilbert’s research showed that whatever major life events happen to you — you buy a new sports car, you get fired from your job, your spouse cheats on you and leaves you, you win a paid vacation to Tahiti, whatever — your happiness will naturally return to an original baseline level after a period of time. Your mind will naturally do this by convincing itself certain experiences weren’t as great or as bad as they actually were. Tahiti was nice but the water could have been warmer and we didn’t have an air conditioner. Losing the job sucked but at least it gave me more time to be with the kids. Yeah, she cheated on me, but we went to marriage counseling and now we’re closer than ever; it’s the wake up call we needed.
What makes you happy the most: solitude