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This is a discussion on INTJ Troubles with Extroverts within the INTJ Forum - The Scientists forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; I am the only introvert born into a completly extraverted family and they don't seem to understand me at all. ...

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    INTJ Troubles with Extroverts

    I am the only introvert born into a completly extraverted family and they don't seem to understand me at all. Whenever I spend time alone they think i'm depressed. Any help?

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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    I'd explain the problem to them in a very clear, logical, and rational manner (as I'd expect an INTJ to do, anyway).

    Say something like this:

    "Ok, guys, look. You obviously know that I am the only introvert in this family. You often think that I am depressed by being by myself a lot. Truth is, folks, I'm not depressed in the slightest. I just like being by myself and working on my own.

    You all are extroverts. That means that you enjoy spending a lot of time around people, chatting and talking and going to parties and hanging out at the mall or whatever. There is nothing wrong with that; it's just that I don't like to do that kind of stuff- I'd rather sit at home and read a book, watch some TV, etcetera. Just because I prefer solitude doesn't mean I'm depressed. It means I'm an introvert, which is not someone who hates people. I don't hate people, I just prefer to be alone more often than not. I love you guys deeply; however, I am not depressed. I'm just more oriented towards working in my head and thinking a lot, rather than being more extroverted like y'all, again with which there is nothing wrong. If we all work together we can develop a better understanding of one another through our words and actions."

    I empathize with you, fellow introvert. Hopefully they will begin to understand soon.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    They seem to not even know what an introvert is, not to mention what a INTJ is. xD You should explain it to them and make sure they understand who they are and how they act. The above comment explained it very well, so I don't think I have to go much further in explination. owo Everyone seems to misunderstand me as well, but I am asocial along with my INTJ personality, but I guess that's not every INTJ, so it's a bit different for me..
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Best advice you can get: Bare with it, but work to move into your own place.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Thank god I'm surrounded by introverts.

    I'm looking back on my childhood now and thinking, wow, so that's why that aspect of my life was so pleasant.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I come from a mostly extroverted family too, so I feel your pain. My ESFJ mom was the hardest to deal with because she would constantly interrupt me and felt rejected when I didn't want to spend time with her. She didn't understand what an introvert was so I simply explained to her that I need 'alone time'. This became a key phrase I would use when I needed to recharge and it helped her take my retreats less personally. After years of training she now asks me upfront if I need alone time and tells other people not to interrupt me when I do, lol. It worked!
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    A piece of advice(?) if things get rough(?) and loud. Use this: 'So dear unconditionally loving immediate family members, would you like me to go down on one knee, cry a fucking river and apologize for being who I am?' Its so sarcastic(?) it portrays a very strong personality, and it bites like a piranha. Try it, guilt trip them because it's usually what they need.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Thanks for all the suggestions.

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