For me, the difficulty with bonding with extroverts comes from the choice that Es tend to make, to skim the surface of things. I bond better with Ns, extroversion/introversion notwithstanding. N types seem to have an internal creativity and depth that I require to form any type or relationship at all.
Having dealt with all other types EXCEPT INTJ (because I can't find one -- I'm thinking of taking out an ad on craigslist), INTJ is my first choice. My INFP daughter is often acceptable since we can both sit quietly in the same room for hours without disrupting the other.
The extroverts are loud, and often annoying. There, I said it. :)
(Apologies for not addressing the issue... slight diversion from topic.)