As INTJ's we know very well our limitations with emotional expression. In fact, it takes alot of introspection to even know how to understand our feelings. But one thing I haven't been able to relate to is the rumored INTJ coldness. I definitely feel as though I have the capacity for it, but I have a natural inclination to be warm.
I have a couple theories about why. I've been in a band for about 7 years now and I feel as though listening, writing, playing and performing all tap into aspects of my F that I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have had to deal with otherwise. If I'm listening to the right type of song I can feel and understand my emotions very clearly. This spills over into other aspects of my life. I mean I even won most friendly in High School before i knew of MBTI (friendly INTJ's? Who knew?)
I also have an ENFJ mother so maybe her influence showed me the ropes of politeness and popper manners. She also had me doing things like acting and performing little songs at an early age.
Have any of you other INTJ's experienced anything similar? Have any of you had what feels like good F development? Perhaps through Music or some other artform?