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This is a discussion on INTP-INTJ friendship broke - INTJ stalked me on social media, ALL THE TIME! within the INTJ Forum - The Scientists forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; I will share sometimes, if it is worth sharing ("used to share"/"was", as I went off FB a short time ...

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    I will share sometimes, if it is worth sharing ("used to share"/"was", as I went off FB a short time ago), but I always credited the person it came from and usually told them that I had shared something they had posted. They always just "liked" (in that FB way) the fact that I shared, and nothing ever came of it. It was not regarded as "stealing". I never had someone just snatch a thought or personal idea off me and post it as their own. That I know of. Some people are really toxic on social media, and it's best to block them. It is one thing to have people accessing your page who might not agree with you on everything - if they behave themselves, let diversity, uh, reign. If you feel "personally targeted and uncomfortable" with the way they are acting or what they are putting on their page, block them. An ex's new partner put some trolly stuff on their FB page that was clearly intended to thumb a nose at me and provoke me (long after the heat of the situation had died down, and this, from someone who - although childlike and spiteful by personality - is older, and occupies a sufficiently high govt position that you would think they would have more gravitas). At one point in my life, and it was actually not too long ago, I would have unwittingly let this person sink the hook right in and elicit a reaction out of me. When I saw that stuff on the person's FB page, though, I thought, "hmm, this person is angry and immature enough to take THAT much effort to poke me with a stick years after our conflict, rather than just work with me politely on the matters we are forced to interact on". Another person I merely defriended (not blocked) because he couldn't stop disagreeing with me politically and kept making snide remarks. One of those who only wants friends who share his own beliefs and can't simply "ignore what he doesn't agree with". The upshot, IMO: social media has a lot of potential human drama pitfalls, so use the tools these media provide to minimize the drama and take out of it what you want.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Airess3 View Post
    Why did this INTJ stalk me? It's creepy you know. I posted a photo with a creative idea and then the next moment, he posts the exact photo on his profile. It's like stealing my idea, come up with your own! Then a few months later, I post something deep and philosophical then he steals that again. What's up with him? All the while when we see each other at school, he talks about the stuff he read about me on my profiles. So eventually, I couldn't take any more idea-stealing and stalking stuff and I just stopped talking to him. That was a shame, we had such great conversations but seriously, I hate it when people want to be like me. Why stalk people?

    Yeah, I know one of you will say, "If you don't want people stealing your ideas then don't post them then." But how come everyone else won't stalk me and steal my ideas yet this one person does?

    Did any other INTJs stalk their friends before and why?
    I was an unhealthy stalker in the high school, but never to this extent. Now, I only "stalk" to understand someone better. I will say, though, it's easy for INTJs to become obsessive. Also, I'd never, ever steal an idea because there would be zero satisfaction from doing so.

  3. #43

    Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Maybe they just thought you were brilliant and insightful!

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Hows the friendship now? Can it be restored? I suggest maybe you could let him know your boundaries, it might just solve the problem.

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    People sharing other peoples posts on facebook is pretty normal behavior and doesn't constitute stalking.
    More likely than not your two pictures came up in his feed.
    He liked them and shared them.
    That isn't stalking.

    People like you who worry about stalking should learn a thing or two about the privacy features of facebook.
    If you post an image that he can't see (as he is restricted),
    and he still manages to find a way to copy it, then you have a stalker.

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    INTJ

    Quote Originally Posted by Airess3 View Post
    Why did this INTJ stalk me? It's creepy you know. I posted a photo with a creative idea and then the next moment, he posts the exact photo on his profile. It's like stealing my idea, come up with your own! Then a few months later, I post something deep and philosophical then he steals that again. What's up with him? All the while when we see each other at school, he talks about the stuff he read about me on my profiles. So eventually, I couldn't take any more idea-stealing and stalking stuff and I just stopped talking to him. That was a shame, we had such great conversations but seriously, I hate it when people want to be like me. Why stalk people?

    Yeah, I know one of you will say, "If you don't want people stealing your ideas then don't post them then." But how come everyone else won't stalk me and steal my ideas yet this one person does?

    Did any other INTJs stalk their friends before and why?
    He probably had a secret crush on you: INTJs generally have too much intellectual pride to out-and-out plagiarize.
    For an INTJ to borrow your thoughts or postings wholesale is usually a sign of wholesale approval -- either of the idea, or the poster...


     
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