I've been friends with this guy (let's call him A) in my theatre department for almost three years. We got pretty close starting last year, and our friendship has grown since. I eventually developed very strong feelings for him. I was in denial about it for a long time, so I didn't want to say anything and risk ruining our friendship, especially since we have to work together for another year. Recently, I've been strongly encouraged to tell him how I feel by several people. V, his best friend, who also is a very good friend of mine, has been particularly persistent on the subject. V thinks there is a good chance that my feelings are reciprocated, as least as far as he can tell. A plays his cards pretty close to the chest, so it's very hard to get a read on him.
I'm afraid that my feelings have grown too strong for things to continue as they are. I don't want to ruin our friendship, which is highly important to me, but I feel like honesty is the best course of action. And I think we would be great together. We already have a fantastic working relationship and a strong friendship. He's an INTJ, and I'm an INFP. We balance each other out really well, and I think that it's worth the risk to tell him.
Here are my questions:
- Should I tell him? If so, what's the best way to tell him?
- What are the chances of this ruining our friendship?
- How do INTJs show attraction to someone?
- He's a traditional guy. For any traditional INTJ males, how would it come across for a female to make the first move?
Thanks for the help!