This is a discussion on Guides to mastering human interaction? Fellows got any? within the INTJ Forum - The Scientists forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by Kaboomz treat everyone with respect and without expectation. Without expectations, what provides the motivation to bother with ...
The best and purest path to connection is having a shared interest to talk about. The more passionate the better.
I think it is safe to say most people have interjected themselves into someone else's conversation regarding something they like and have been interjected themselves. In the end you at least become acquaintances. A mutual interest is great because it provides both people with a topic to fall to as they steadily share personal details. The main obstacle then becomes making the first move, strive to be the initiator.
It would seem there are quite a lot of people that dislike being the initiator even though it only lasts a moment. People are worried about how they will be perceived by new people, as such people are more internally critical of themselves in first time interactions. We are less focused and harsh on any minor awkwardness from the person we are engaged with. Initiation comes with an ultimately silly but hard to shake off anxiety.
Having difficulty figuring out the interests of others? If you are in a school join a club: Anime, Video Games, Debate, etc. The shared interest is now obvious! Magic! Now simply muster the courage to chat up someone that seems interesting to you. If you struggle with introversion aim to grab yourself a charismatic extrovert such as an ENFJ. ENFJ's tend to be regular aficionados when it comes to their interests, and are generally happy to be engaged by others. My professional INTJ evaluation of ENFJs: excellent communicators with whom I consistently experience quick chemistry.
I pretend / act as if I am someone who is very socially skilled and enjoys meeting new people. Approaching it as a game of acting, to get a certain reaction from someone, allows me to bypass social anxieties and really engage people. At some point, one must be real, but this is good to break the ice and give a strong first impression. It helps enormously with self-confidence.