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This is a discussion on The Development of INTP Children within the INTP Articles forums, part of the INTP Forum - The Thinkers category; Good article. After reading it, and having a rather lengthy conversation with my mother about my toddler years and early ...

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    Good article.

    After reading it, and having a rather lengthy conversation with my mother about my toddler years and early childhood, I realized that I was actually the typical ENTP child.

    Strange how I ended up an IN(T/F)P.
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  2. #22
    INTP - The Thinkers

    This article made me realize how deprived my childhood was. I wanted to be this typical version of the INTP child and I acted accordingly, but my dad (ESTJ) stifled me under his control. I was not allowed to explore on my own because he said it was "dangerous," I was not allowed to argue or be rebellious without getting punished severly and inhumanely. I eventually reasoned that it was best for me to play by his rules, and the stress of doing so, of going against my entire system of living, caused me to develop a psychological disorder which I will be forced to battle with for the rest of my life.

    I would advise all parents of INTP children to read and follow this article. It could be the difference between life and death for your child.

    On a much brighter note, I laughed when reading about INTPs structured sentences at such a young age. My first sentence, after having only mumbled and said 'Mom' and 'Dad' my whole life, occurred when I was eating gummy bears and one of them fell out of my reach. I promptly gasped and said, as clear as day,

    "Uh oh, it got away!"


  3. #23
    INTP - The Thinkers

    I remember being a first-grader and constantly arguing the difference between Leopards, Tigers and Cheetahs.

    I remember getting mad at my mom for thinking spiders were insects, "NO THEY'RE ARACHNIDS!"

    This is dead accurate, I remember my mother had gotten me an encyclopedia for kids, I read it all the time.
    I was on my bike everywhere :), the park, the library, I loved the freedom.

    I think I was most intellectually developed at 8. I remember reading dictionaries for fun, Who wants to be a Millionaire, and Jeopardy. I still remember we had guests over and a statement was on in Jeopardy "This is now known as Bangladesh..."
    I said "East Pakistan". Then another "this poisonous gas killed the romans (something like that) *contestant get wrong answer* "No stupid, its nitrous oxide...". No one got it right :D

    The family friend who was over said "Wow you should be on Jeopardy," I was thinking about it logically "No, I only got two answers right." (the rest I didn't answer) He said "when you're older..." I was quiet

    It scarily accurate, though I wasn't a genius baby like you described.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I remember the time when I was theorizing to my mom. I think I was around 12 - 15.
    I forgot what I said to her, but then afterwards...

    She asked me: "So poor people should not be allowed to have children?"
    I answered: "Yes"

    I think I have said or theorized a few things about society that are quite dehumanizing.

    I also asked my mom, probably when I was less than 10 years old:
    "Why do these people act so friendly towards other children, but they yell at their own children?"

    My mom couldn't answer, but my dad as always is using some kind of self-righteous explanation that was imposed by society: "Because parents cared more about their own children."

    In my head I had this thought, but maybe not exactly like this, because I was very young at that time:
    "Well that should be right, but that's not the answer, and I could sense that you're lying and unable to provide an honest answer."

  6. #25
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    I was a little more SJ as a child and less NP than the OP described because of my environment (parents are heavy J types). As a toddler I asked "why about everything" especially on the way to and from preschool in the car. I remember once I asked my dad if the president was the smartest person in the world. He said no. I responded why doesn't the smartest person in the US become president. He said because (s)he is smart. That blew my mind. On the other hand, my mother wouldn't answer me or tolerate it, and sometimes it became a debate. Then she'd become angry and end it with "I'm sick and tired of ...."
    I was obsessed with RC cars and LEGOs. Although, I was often frustrated with RC cars because I couldn't take apart the circuit board and rearrange it for something else. All I could change were the tires, the motor, and the body. I'm still bitter about that.
    At about age 6, a couple of close friends and I at the time created an entire "culture" with its own alphabet, social statuses, signature walk, flags, spiritual songs, "activities," and holidays. Yeah, it was that intense. It caught on like wildfire on the school yard. We had to shut it down because we didn't include everybody. Strange situation for an INTP. What are the odds hahahaha. Other than that, most my teachers said I was usually quiet, creative, and well-behaved.
    I became a lot more NPish starting around 14 when I had my first major depression and that a large part of that mind state lingered around until 16-17. I think I would have became an INTJ (or an ISTJ?) rather than an INTP if it wasn't for this.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Thank you for reviving this thread. I have been tempted to revive many old ones, as I surf through them, and I might start doing it now.

    I read the article this referred to, and it resonated on many counts. As a female INTP child, and a middle child, and as the child of career Southern Baptist international missionary parents, I found myself modeling traits for my mother early on. (My mother, as fate would have it, was a big-hearted ESFJ. I was her first female child.) It's difficult to describe it without it sounding very creepy, and rightly so, I suppose, for being the child I was often felt very creepy indeed. I felt like I was this calm old man who, upon finding himself embodied as a little girl, was constantly trying to read the situation and behave appropriately to avoid upsetting the outer world and thereby maintain his core existence.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I wish my parents had read this article. Me and my mum (ESFJ), are always at odds. She always imposes seemingly useless rules and whenever I question them (curiosity or because I know they are plain stupid, her answer is almost always "Because I said so". That is the most stupid excuse for an answer that is possible to give in any situation. That and she always makes pointless observations that are redunant, and always gets shitty at me when I don't feel like expending the energy to talk/argue with her. God, 2 months can't get here fast enough, as soon as february comes I'm out of the house.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by Arbite View Post
    I wish my parents had read this article. Me and my mum (ESFJ), are always at odds. She always imposes seemingly useless rules and whenever I question them (curiosity or because I know they are plain stupid, her answer is almost always "Because I said so". That is the most stupid excuse for an answer that is possible to give in any situation. That and she always makes pointless observations that are redunant, and always gets shitty at me when I don't feel like expending the energy to talk/argue with her. God, 2 months can't get here fast enough, as soon as february comes I'm out of the house.
    This. I love my mom to death, but she's an ESFJ. She loves small talk, lots of human interaction, and being in charge for no reason other than "I'm the mom."

    I've lived with her my whole life and I still can't relate at all. She threatened to kick me out for not doing the dishes once (though I'm almost certain it was an empty threat).
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    My mother was a ENFJ and my father was a ISTJ (at least that's what I thought)

    My relationship with my parents were horrible and there were constant emotional outbursts. This was mostly due to the fact that my mother was overbearingly controlling I often challenged the rules and showed disregard for her authority. She took this *personally* and tried to do everything she could to change me. -.-''

    I think I can understand why it's often difficult to love/appreciate INTP children.

    In terms of parental control, we're often really difficult because we usually have little regard for authority or rules. We see our parents as our "equal" rather than in term of an authority figure. We also appear to be cold and indifferent because we don't always say how we really feel.

    I think the most important thing for parents of INTP children is to try and understand their viewpoint without judging them. Treat them as an equal rather than "just a child". Love them instead of trying to control/change them. INTP types are usually extremely rational and capable of make good choices, so just trust them instead of trying to protect them.
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    Yeah, this article is only really relevant if you were raised in a healthy environment, an environment that supported your natural INTP strengths, an educated environment. I was not raised in an educated environment and I didn't try to behave like a typical INTP until I found out about MBTI in college. I was always trying to be someone that I wasn't, someone that I thought was better. Coming from a heavy SJ family I was always very aware of what was "right" and what was "wrong" and I tried desperately to conform to the SJ lifestyle. This is the reason I was depressed my whole life, I'm almost sure of it. I remember asking a ton of questions and literally being told I asked too many questions, as if I should feel ashamed for that. So guess what I did? I stopped asking questions completely.

    Although at a young age I did explore many different things, I loved boys toys- matchbox cars (I would always trade in the barbie for the car at McDonald's), lincoln logs, the library, legos, creepy crawlers, remote control cars, I had a go-kart, n64, playstation, gameboy, collected pokemon cards, etc... but my intelligence was not cultivated because no one in my family is educated. So I went along the school system with absolutely zero help, zero culture, and I didn't even do well in school, I was bored and didn't pay attention. I actually thought I was stupid and had zero self-esteem. This makes me realize how crucial the environment is to a child's development and how I really did get the short end of the stick as an INTP. My sister (ESTJ) has a completely normal childhood, it's just not fair. Oh well, life moves on.
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