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This is a discussion on My story. Need Help! Calling all the INTP fellas within the INTP Forum - The Thinkers forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; 3:20 in the morning, Thursday/9th/November/2018 Hello, all the INTP's out there and others too. I am new here and this ...

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    My story. Need Help! Calling all the INTP fellas

    3:20 in the morning, Thursday/9th/November/2018

    Hello, all the INTP's out there and others too. I am new here and this my first thread on this website. I am from India, I am just like normal INTPS out there. I am a computer science final year Student. I get Average grades in exams with normal Study. Everyone thinks I am a very smart guy but only i know what goes in my mind. I am a master procrastinator. Don't have any siblings. Don't have many friends because of my social awkwardness.(I have 1 Doctor friend who is INTJ) I don't go outside much. My only world is my room, I sit in front of my computer whole day plaiyng games, trying to research useless things(i don't know why I do that.) or trying to watch self-improvement video. One of my good habits is I go to the gym every morning. It's holidays. Usually, I go to College after hitting the gym but nowdays I come from the gym and start to read something after 15 minutes or so I get distracted and I say to myself I'll start from tomorrow let's play some games or search something on the internet (ex: Why am I like this?) and here it goes. My Loop, that's what I do every day. I am single. My girlfriend dumped me because of some stupid reasons (for an example:: Whenever my girlfriend tried to talk me my minds wonders of in the middle of a conversation and after she did her talking I used to say can you repeat that and again I get distracted by my thoughts )

    My Problems :

    # Suffering from depression and OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) from past 6 months This shit got so crazy that I even started getting panic attacks. I am addicted to masturbation. I masturbate daily from an age of 14. Tried NOFAP. Did not work couldn't hold the urge. My psychiatrist told me that I got this OCD because of the guilt I get after masturbation.

    # I procrastinate a lot.

    # Social anxiety

    # Can't pay attention to conversations, get distracted so easily.

    # I can think of so many Cool ideas, I start 1000's of projects, Many to-do lists and 100's of plans but the problem is I start everything but never finish anything. All I know is that I can't stick to one idea or plan.

    All I know that I can be very productive if I'll stick to 1 thing.

    List will be too long if I will write down every problem I have.

    ohh f**k I forgot why I am writing this down. Oh yeah, I need your help guys.

    Just tell me why am I like this?

    What should I do to Improve myself?


    I want to reach the full potential of INTP.


    (Please don't tell me the answers I know already like = Start reading, bla..bla..bla...)

    And yeah, pls don't hate me. Took so much effort to write this down



    Thanks,
    Your friend.



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    Hmmm, who got a new account?

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    K so if someone asks you "I masturbate too much, I procrastinate with videogames and I zone out in conversations with my girlfriend, what do I do?"

    The most obvious answer would be "Don't masturbate so much, find a way to restrict access to videogames and consult your doctor for ADHD diagnosis and medication"

    As an aside, meditation also works to get control of the noggin, but you need to stick at it.

    As for why you do it? Poor emotional management, lack of self awareness and no healthy coping mechanisms. Basically you weren't taught the good stuff.

    INTP often have this problem where they keep trying to stretch out the thinking and researching to avoid the doing. You're pretty much there.
    Last edited by Necrofantasia; 11-09-2018 at 02:28 AM.
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    Some Buddhist monasteries let you stay 3-6 months as a layperson. Staring at a wall for hours every day for a few months might help.
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    Do you know how can I join it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alpha12 View Post
    Do you know how can I join it?
    Depends on where you are. There are lots of Buddhist monasteries in the West these days, though type and quality of practice varies - there are many different Buddhist traditions and schools. Here's one example, the Amavarati monastery in Hertfordshire, UK. There are plenty in the US as well if that's where you are located, although I think most are on the coasts. I've heard good things about Deer Park in CA.

    There are generally retreats from a few days to a few weeks, but many also let you stay longer as a layperson as long as you contribute towards accommodation and food.

    As long as you're not so badly off that you need to consult a medical professional before visiting a Buddhist meditation centre, at least a few weeks' worth of silent meditation will likely have a positive impact. Judging by your original post, you've developed a habit of distracting yourself in dysfunctional ways, and a silent retreat will target that head-on.
    Last edited by Marvin the Dendroid; 11-08-2018 at 11:20 PM.
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    Thanks for that buddy. I am on medication already. My doc gave me Prozac for my panic attacks and OCD. Thanks again.

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    INTP

    Quote Originally Posted by Marvin the Dendroid View Post
    Depends on where you are. There are lots of Buddhist monasteries in the West these days, though type and quality of practice varies - there are many different Buddhist traditions and schools. Here's one example, the Amavarati monastery in Hertfordshire, UK. There are plenty in the US as well if that's where you are located, although I think most are on the coasts. I've heard good things about Deer Park in CA.
    Alpha12 is from India but I agree that practicing meditation in a place where discipline is present is a good idea.

    @Alpha12 , you may find something there:
    https://www.quora.com/Which-Buddhist...ecoming-a-monk
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    @Alpha12 I am sorry to hear you're feeling like this, trust me most of us here have been there.

    What helped me with depression is long walks in nature and baths. Both are good for the INTP as you can still think as much as you like while doing it, but these are stress relieving activities, so it's likely your thought pattern might see a shift (slowly is a key word, you don't push these things).

    I suffered (still suffer) from procrastination. What helps is breaking up the task in parts. Say, you need to write an essay. Start with the boring parts i.e. your reference list. Write that down. Chances are you'll get into research mode while doing it, and you might do some studying to. The hard part is starting (when it comes to things you dread). If you manage to trick yourself to get to the right mindset, you're halfways there. You're still not going to be as productive as the INTJ- that's fine. Baby steps at first.

    Don't worry about the masturbation, it's alright if you do it, but try to reduce it, to say once a day. Try without visual stimulants, use your imagination, I'm sure you have some. If there's there a girl you like, think of her. Anything goes, it's your head.

    And finally, try to talk to people as much as possible. New people. New people have no expectations of you, the exchange will likely not be memorable, no there's no pressure. You can be awkward, you can screw up, it's all good. That was my way of getting better at socialising, my social anxiety was through the roof whilst at Uni (when I was doing my Bachelor's). Now, years later, in my early 30s people think I'm very social, it's all practice.

    Finally, feel free to hang out here. People are mostly friendly, in their special INTP way, and if you get sick of us, there're other subforums you can visit. Take care :)
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    INTP


    just pick a project and go with it, everything else kinda falls into place from there.


     
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