I'll try to list as much information as I feel is necessary, but I'm kind of disappointed in the situation I'm in for a few reasons, mostly because I feel like I made the wrong choice. There were a few red flags I didn't care about, and it's seemingly biting me right now.
To start, I am the the "new" roomie in this story as I recently moved out of my family home and into a room situation closer to work. The place I ended up picking was 1 of 4 places I was juggling between the closer it came to the move date. I knew it wasn't the most ideal, but I felt like the lister was very straight forward and easy to talk to without giving me the creeps (relatively speaking). The apartment was well laid out for my ideal level of privacy and it didn't seem like a total mess from first observation.
Red flags -
The post was listed by the roomie moving out and she made some good talk about how the person I'd be staying with is sweet and cool, all that is fine and as it turns out she is. But this girl does not have mannerisms that make me feel comfortable at all. (more on this later)
-I initially was not looking for someone in a relationship and would have people over often. Nor did these people mention it, and I overlooked to ask, even though I made it a topic of conversation with almost every other listing I checked before. Turns out the girl I'm staying with does have a boyfriend and he often stays every weekend supposedly (wtf!!!)...
-As I've come to find out, all of these people involved are not from the Country and have strict work and school provisions to be here. All fine and dandy, but this is something I was not told before hand and is something I don't want to deal with! The girl I'm staying with is from Hong Kong (not Asian!.?) and her BF is from Mexico... And the roomie moving out is from Spain.... So this is just a weird concoction of international living styles I was not ready for. This doesn't really bother me at all, it's just their living history is completely elusive to me and makes me a bit nervous.
-This is completely trivial, but the girl has a cat of unknown origins to me and seems to be a bit traumatized. It's missing its Tail and gets easily spooked.. Oddly enough we both have the same name...But he doesn't seemed to be abused by the girl. Although she does feed him cheap trash food (I'm a bit anal about feeding animals crap) and he doesn't get out much, if at all.
Other than this, things I've learned over the last week since I've been here is that, the girl is not very communicative about who she's bringing over nor does she feel the need to keep me up to date on who she brings over and if I have anyone over. This is just not how I was raised and it's kind of pissing me off that she doesn't know these basic household rules.
She's younger than me, finishing up college and working, so her day schedule is a bit of a cluster fck. Just the other night she brought some girl over (I'm assuming a work colleague) and didn't bother to let me know she was staying over. And as mentioned before, she didn't have the courtesy to mention she had a boyfriend that is over all the time before I moved in.
Now I'm trying to be reasonable and not throw a fkn curve ball into their living situation that they've had in motion well before I got here. But my problem stems from the fact that the other options I had lined up made it kind of clear that they lived a quiet lifestyle and did not have any S.O that would disturb us. Something that is pretty important to me as I just don't like extra people roaming around. I also just find it disrespectful that I'm the one paying rent here and she is just letting people stay here with out letting me know. If her boyfriend is going to be staying here like he lives here? What is he doing about rent or providing something to the table? The only reason I haven't thrown a fit yet is because he does seem like a nice guy and is working full time. I'm sure I would have told her he would have to go if he was some bum sticking around. But this is still something I wasn't told before me signing my name for this place.
On the last issue, these roomies just don't seem like they were living a very clean life before I got here. The first day I moved in I had to clean up relatively dirty bathrooms (guest and mine) and a refrigerator full of expired food. Now that I've already invested a fair amount of time cleaning this place up and getting it to an acceptable condition, I would rather stay, but I'm just not fully happy with this girl's living habits all that much. And to be fair, I think most of the cluttered mess was from the girl that left.
Am I being overly sensitive about this stuff or should I start putting my foot down before things continue in an unfavorable situation? I really don't want to make her life difficult as she seems like a very nice and hard working person, but this is not exactly what I signed up for.