1)What do you consider gender to be? How is it different from the socially programmed definition?
Gender has typically been either male/female as it commonly relates to ones normal social roles mans jobs or ladies jobs but also and biological sex characteristics "penis or ovaries" that usually defined whether one was male or female.
When I consider my gender I "FEEL LIKE A WOMAN" and I have ovaries but when I think about social roles that have been the "Norm" I have diverged from what was typically what a woman did so would that mean I am gender fluid? I don't know exactly but I don't feel the need to label myself as gender-fluid just because I do men things as well as womens.
2)Do you separate gender from sex or so called gender roles or are they synonymous?
I do separate gender and sex. I see Sex as biological and I see gender as more of term for describing is one as feminine or masculine.
3)Are gender roles in modern times detrimental or necessary? Why?
In this day an age more so in first world countries I think the lines between who is what, and why, are not particularly necessary because firstly there are so many of us so we don't need to allocate certain people to certain jobs anymore and I think that everyone got bored of gender roles and wanted to try new stuff. Humans are curious creatures after all. The separations and rigid structures surrounding gender did provide structure for many countries and continents for a long time but many have obviously outgrown that structure and want to forge new structures for how society functions.