How do you deal with someone that messed up with you?
I noticed that depending on the situation I can instantly forgive people for being assholes. There was a guy who fucked up the entire team in my work. Everyone hates him, yesterday I talked to him like he was my best friend lol. In fact, he ended up messing with me because he wanted to get a co-worker triggered, but even with him messing with me and a good friend of mine I just didn't care enough to be bad with him.
I noticed that for me to really hate someone the person needs to 1) Attack me directly. I don't take other's fights (not even from my mom) 2) Be unuseful to me, someone that I can't see as a possible opportunity in the future.