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    and being invited to anything

    How to INTPs deal with being invited to places, like birthday parties or movies or something?

    I don't know if it's just me, but I hate being invited into social gatherings. Or... anything, really. Even when it's to somewhere I 'might find interesting' (...?), I hate going anywhere that requires actually experiencing anything. It always seems rude to decline, though, especially when the invitation is coupled with "I thought you'd enjoy it", so I always end up making up exuses or giving an ambiguous reply ("Okay, I'll see if I have time"). Even worse when I have to explain why I don't want to go.

    So, do other INTPs hate this sort of stuff, and how do you guys deal with them?


    **I'm actually an INXP to be safe, which explains my INFP status, but I find that I'm identifying more and more with INTP. Never bothered to change my type, though, so bear with me.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by iKicker View Post
    Even worse when I have to explain why I don't want to go.
    Ugh, this has been killing me recently.

    I just get really stubborn. I feel bad about it too, but I have confidence that the people I care about caring about me will understand even if they aren't necessarily happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by L4NkYb View Post
    I just get really stubborn. I feel bad about it too, but I have confidence that the people I care about caring about me will understand even if they aren't necessarily happy.
    Good point. I don't understand why some people can't accept the simple explanation "I don't want to go".

    The people who are really close to me have gotten used to my declining everything, but now they're under the impression that they shouldn't bring me anywhere at all.
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    I hate going anywhere that requires actually experiencing anything.

    Really? I often get invited to people's houses with nothing to do and I don't want to go because I'll waste my time doing boring things. I wouldn't mind new experiences.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Citizen of the World View Post
    I hate going anywhere that requires actually experiencing anything.

    Really? I often get invited to people's houses with nothing to do and I don't want to go because I'll waste my time doing boring things. I wouldn't mind new experiences.
    It might just be me, but I don't like to watching or experimenting things I (and most people) already understand in theory. For example, I probably wouldn't go to see a space rocket launch; I already know it launches, and I don't want to go through all the trouble of getting there. Most of the time, the trouble outweighs the actual event for me. Not to even mention that it looked better in my mind.

    But then again, most of the things I'm interested in require almost nothing but a brain, so it might as well be because I'm not really interested in anything that requires actually going somewhere to experience it....

    Is this unusual for an INTP?
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by iKicker View Post
    Is this unusual for an INTP?
    No that's incredibly INTP. Why would I do it when I can think about it?
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    Quote Originally Posted by L4NkYb View Post
    Why would I do it when I can think about it?
    Oh yes, our famous laziness. You're reading my mind, lol.

    But seriously, how do I delete my posts? I'm a newbie. I have to KNOW.
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    I think you hit edit and it gives you a delete option. Well, when I hover over the EDIT button, it says Edit/Delete Message, so....
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I don't have this problem. My friends are quite aware about what I would try and what I wouldn't. For example, they know that if they are going dancing there is no point in calling me. Nonetheless, when they do propose something I don't want to do I will simply say "I don't feel like it". If they ask why not I will repeat until they get the message.

    I don't mind hanging out with friends though. I enjoy their company
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    Quote Originally Posted by iKicker View Post
    I think you hit edit and it gives you a delete option. Well, when I hover over the EDIT button, it says Edit/Delete Message, so....
    I know, but when I do that I can't find a "delete" option. I tried erasing all of the text but it only said that I must have at least 10 characters to save so I can't delete it this way.


     
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