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I don't flirt either. Not intentionally anyways. I don't know how to go about it at all. I think I'm an ST, but I don't think I expect flirtation. I hate baited questions. My ex used to try to get her to say things and it was so painfully obvious.. Its strange. I was with my ex for a year and I rarely went out of my way to say I love you stuff like that. However, when I think about it now, I would want some sort of indicator every once in a while so I know for sure that the other person is interested. My guess is that it sounds good on paper, but when I actually get in a relationship, I wouldn't care. Um, perhaps the last bit was unrelated? I'm so clueless when it comes to flirtation I might have jumbled two things together. Oh well.
Fun tangent- When I met her in person in early December, I asked her to study with me. That is how clueless I am.
I understand that people could test incorrectly. While I didn't ask how she knows her type, I do believe it is an internet test. Though I won't know for sure, she does seem to allign with many INTP traits. (She isn't interested in sports, cars, is pragmatic, has good grammar when texting, writes long responses when appropriate...) Though admittedly, she does seem less extreme than other INTPs on this forum. Of course, I don't know her that well yet. I do not believe she is a Feeler nor extrovert though. Only time will tell.
The weird part is that she opened up quite a bit during our "study session." For instance, she told me she takes caffeine pills, is neurotic, hates the cat at her apartment...ect. I was surprised that she talked so much especially since I did say I was looking for a study buddy so it would be easy to not talk and hit the books. (which we did do, but we still talked for about 3/4 of the time in a 5 hr period)
"Emotionally close" is not something I'm sure I want or not. I am for sure T as opposed to F and had bad experiences with an F Type recently so I am looking for another T type. That being said, as long as it is clear that she has feelings for me at some point, then I should be fine. It was awkward for me to say "I love you" and stuff like that with my ex. If it were up to me, there would probably be much less of that. Basically, as long as its understood, then I should be fine. I guess the lack of indications could be worrying, but I decided that I would try and make the first approach regardless.
If it works out, it works out. If not, I may lay low a bit and then try again or perhaps move on. Not too sure yet.
4. I mean from friends to bf/gf. I don't do hookups. On that note, she said something that threw me off. On the topic of abortion and Planned Parenthood, she said "This is something that is especially relevant to me." I didn't pursue further due to instinct, but I still wonder if that means she needs to get abortions or is needing birth control pills....I don't know but I'm slightly uneasy about it. Maybe its wrong to do so, but I still would hate to hate her screwing another guy.. Oh well, I do believe she is single now...facebook won't lie to me right? (She was "in a relationship" on fb a few months ago)
5. I don't believe she hates texting since she always replies on messenger. Sometimes she it takes an hour or two to first see the message, but I don't know if that is an indicator of anything. People can be busy..sometimes she replies instantly, sometimes a few minute-10-15min wait time. Its all very confusing. I think that she isn't the type to text first with people she doesn't know to well. This is based off the introvert approach. Most introverts I know rarely initiate contact even among good friends. I know I used to be like that.
7. Em, I'm too familiar with "normal women" anyways. No expectations here. I do think that INTP romance is hard to read as well. So far, my theory is that its hard to for INTPs to convey emotion through text. Or perhaps they don't bother with conveying emotion at all. I noticed that her responses usually doesn't have much connotations as well. Honestly, I think that I might be able to get a general read over time. Just need that in person contact!
Glad you guys aren't Tsundere. They confuse me. I appreciate honesty.[/QUOTE]
The opening up thing. INTPs are deep talkers, we hate small talk so we go strait into mentioning our weird hobbies and asking you about yours. Truly, I would share my opinions with just about anyone who asked me about them.
It's not so much a feeling thing... I tell people about my severe sleeping issues all the time, kind of like small talk. INTPs are somewhat rude and random, like children. Just cause we're not conforming around you doesn't necessarily mean we've opened up.
Abortion relates directly to me in that I couldn't be more against it. Maybe that's what she means. How old is she any way? (If she's for it I'm not going to get upset, I just want to analyse if she actually means she's having them.)
Also, my experiences with Fs haven't been all that great either. I feel like a jerk for saying it, but I don't think they're capable of understanding me really and they can get on my nerves with all their fluffy cotton candy exteriors and drippy emotional insides.
Example, I've never been on a religious where I didn't leave wanting to kill someone. Mainly because the Fs just overwhelm and suffocate me.
The video above would be a classic example of an INTP just not giving a shit about what other people will think if they voice out. Pause at 4:42. That's the signature look I get from angry FSJ girls every time I speak up about something in school.