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This is a discussion on INTP & confidence (or lack thereof) within the INTP Forum - The Thinkers forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; I'm currently reading "Do What You Are," a career self-help book aimed at pairing career paths with personality types. In ...

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    INTP & confidence (or lack thereof)

    I'm currently reading "Do What You Are," a career self-help book aimed at pairing career paths with personality types. In their assessment of the INTP personality, they claim that INTP's have an over-confidence that can put others off. Personally, I have always found the exact opposite to be true, and I'm unsure if that's because of environmental factors or my never satisfied INTP mind. Even though we are the thinkers, do you fellow INTP's ever lack confidence about your intelligence, or anything else for that matter? I find that I waffle quite quickly between feelings of superiority and self-loathing. I constantly beat myself up for forgetting information or needing to be told something twice, and hesitate to share opinions in case others judge them silly or inferior. Objectively, I realize I've had intellectual accomplishments like successfully completing a master's program, yet I question whether I tricked others into believe I'm smart, or if people compliment me just to be nice.

    My question for INTP's is, how do you get past all the crippling self-doubt?
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Deep down I truly believe in myself but I have no social confidence at all (including confidence in my ability to convey my thoughts in an understandable and articulate manner). I believe in my own intelligence but I feel much doubt that others will view me as an intelligent person.

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    When you force yourself to view others as intellectually defective imbeciles, it makes articulating what you want to say a bit easier.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pride View Post
    When you force yourself to view others as intellectually defective imbeciles, it makes articulating what you want to say a bit easier.
    ...but then you come across as an asshole :(
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    Quote Originally Posted by cheesecake View Post
    ...but then you come across as an asshole :(
    I want to eat your name. You sound so damn good right now... with strawberries. Yees. *nods*
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elleg View Post
    they claim that INTP's have an over-confidence that can put others off.
    My experiences in this are similar but eventually after 4yrs at my current job something a coworker once said to me provided some clarity he said that my fellow employees would often get irritated because my level of knowledge. in my department I was often questioned and called a liar but that has almost completely ceased and now I am looked to as a "guru" because people stopped taking everything I say personally he further stated that people have finally figured out that I am oblivious to politics for me it seems like the only problem that ever existed was a unwillingness on my coworkers parts to get to know me.

    in answer to your question I've always found that embracing my insecurities and seeking to better myself in said area afflicted with insecurities is always responded to positively by those around me


    Quote Originally Posted by Pride View Post
    When you force yourself to view others as intellectually defective imbeciles, it makes articulating what you want to say a bit easier.
    I find myself falling into this view of others around me from time to time. I want there to be a different way to approach such individuals but those that I, in a fit of frustration treat in such a manner usually emphatically thank me one even said he appreciated my change in attitude.... I think there must be something else at work in these interactions but the only conclusion I can draw from my observations is that people want to be "coddled" please assist me in correcting my world view or at least giving me some new perspectives to mull over I really struggle in this and would appreciate any replies

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pride View Post
    When you force yourself to view others as intellectually defective imbeciles, it makes articulating what you want to say a bit easier.
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    Do you actually have anything useful to say?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sly View Post
    Sly, try to touch your reflection's nose on the mirror ^.^
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elleg View Post
    I'm currently reading "Do What You Are," a career self-help book aimed at pairing career paths with personality types. In their assessment of the INTP personality, they claim that INTP's have an over-confidence that can put others off. Personally, I have always found the exact opposite to be true, and I'm unsure if that's because of environmental factors or my never satisfied INTP mind. Even though we are the thinkers, do you fellow INTP's ever lack confidence about your intelligence, or anything else for that matter? I find that I waffle quite quickly between feelings of superiority and self-loathing. I constantly beat myself up for forgetting information or needing to be told something twice, and hesitate to share opinions in case others judge them silly or inferior. Objectively, I realize I've had intellectual accomplishments like successfully completing a master's program, yet I question whether I tricked others into believe I'm smart, or if people compliment me just to be nice.

    My question for INTP's is, how do you get past all the crippling self-doubt?
    I have the same issue, no confidence whatsoever in anything, at all. I have some mediocre "achievements" in the intellectual domain but I question them and their merit. In every other facet of existence I have achieved nothing and my lack of confidence is warranted. As for what to do about it, I haven't a clue, functioning in any other manner would feel like I was lying to myself. Some of us really are just sub par human beings, not saying this truly is your case however.


     
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