This is a discussion on Q&A about dating INTPs, and INTP dating: within the INTP Forum - The Thinkers forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by perpetuallyreticent We had a great time when we hung out. It was a spur of the moment ...
It builds up the more times they have to face being bored and waiting for you to finish and making up answers. Eventually they'll get burnt out and just refuse to talk for a period of time (or saying things like "I don't know" or "I don't care"). If they love you they'll forgive you and come back, but you will have to let them lead the conversation for them to regain the amount of energy he/she might expend to talk to you.
If they do not have anything in mind to talk about then don't start to ramble again, suggest topics to them that you think they'll be interested in, but don't force them into any, they might just be tired and not want to talk.
And! And if your one date was too disastrous (for whatever reason), such that he decided to not want to go out with you afterwards, and he's going back and forth between the thought of dating your or not dating you, and literally deciding to cut you out of his life and then put you back in... he's a child.
Bad news, needs at least a few years before dating.
Eeek. Introducing my INTP to a group of friends tomorrow. We're a smallish group, about 5-6 people. I'm not super close with them, but we have a good time when we hang out. I'm a little nervous. Any dos and don'ts? I want to make sure he's not overwhelmed or uncomfortable.
Will definitely communicate the signal thing, that's a good idea. Plus, we'll be going separately just me and him, so we can leave or split off whenever we want to, and we don't have to carpool with the group. He's pretty socially skilled, he's the kind to be able to get along with everybody.Make sure you have a signal in case he gets overwhelmed and wants to leave and don't ignore it. I'm also not sure as to his level of social skills. Have you prepared him mentally for such interactions?