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Hey fellow INTPs: does anyone else go on a purging frenzy after some kind of emotional upheaval?
I put this down as a dating question since this could crop up most with romantic relationships, but this applies in pretty much any scenario where things have had a chance to build up for awhile with people/someone and then boom, last straw.
Not a frenzy, but there is something of a "bullshit gauge" that, once full, makes me exhausted to the point I no longer care if the relationship is lost, so I don't hold back criticism anymore.
The standard result is scorched earth.
I can tell you generally know what I'm getting at, though it's not always about an interpersonal relationship in that sense.
At about 18-19, I remember getting really frustrated about wearing a bunch of clothes I didn't like, felt forced to wear because relatives sent them as gifts and I was expected to wear them or something, so I overhauled my entire closet top to bottom. I had been wearing this stuff for a long time, in some cases well over a year, and I just hit this fever pitch where I was done.
Normally wouldn't remember this kind of thing, except my ENFJ mom was furious. She wanted me to put everything back, I didn't want to, we butted heads like usual.
Social media. Again, I spent a really long time feeling divided between "friends" (read: people who wanted me to do stuff for free or who felt I existed solely as their free therapist), and their preferred messaging and social media platforms. I hit this point where I was done. I decided I was going to maintain only two platforms, obliterated the rest of my accounts, and then went and cleaned out the list of the remaining two of connections that I wasn't getting anything out of.
I would also like to ask, now, if there's a way to tone it down into something more productive for the day-to-day? It's nice when this will cause me to get some huge chunk of project done that's been sitting around for awhile, but I'd like to channel this into something I can use more often.
That aside, in trying to harness it for productivity, what I do is set at least one or two priority goals for a given day, without stuffing the entire day so I don't get paralyzed by pressure. On/off success. Motivation is an elusive bitch though.
Quantification goes a long way for me. S.M.A.R.T goals and all that
As long as there's some forward momentum I'll take it.