[INTP] INTP vs. Moments in re-inventing oneself then relapse; albeit brief/briefly?

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    INTP vs. Moments in re-inventing oneself then relapse; albeit brief/briefly?

    This could be just me, but has anyone else gotten a brief moment in motivation to change something in themselves? Perhaps learning a new topic/field/skill, changing attitude, exercise/get fit, etc etc.

    Only to fall short after a few weeks or months and just relapse to the stage as if nothing ever took place or all effort has turned moot and reset to zero?

    Relapsing to zero is one thing, getting back into whatever it was often takes shorter time to get back to where one left off depending on shortcuts and refresher. But the drive to continue, to reach for the next level / milestone is the challenge.

    Otherwise, in my case, most often, if the endgame / prize no longer holds value or interest, my mind just wouldn't let me continue for continuing sake unless the whole process and procedure is integrated so deeply into my own personal schedule.

    I find it strangely difficult to maintain focus knowing continuing can only benefit me in the long run, but my interest level just falls short wanting to find something else to do. As a result, stuck in an endless cycle of 'learn a little of everything, complete nothing'.



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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Yeah I know exactly what you mean. In my first year of college, I wanted it to go better than high school and decided to be this super social, and energetic person, and popular.

    Thanks to my chameleon skills I re-invented myself, I manage to do it for a while, and manage to pass as kind of a mix between ENTP and ESTP, and made friendships with lots of ESTPs.

    I learned a lot from those guys, I by analyzing their behavior and coping it, I improved my social skills, confidence, and my game with women etc.

    I learned that most confidence is faked, world is uncertain and no body knows shit about anything, you just need to act as if you did.

    As a result I made a bunch of friends, and my agenda was full of social activities.

    But what happened? I got to a point where I was overwhelmed, I couldn't keep up with the ESTPs, those guy were so prone to action and energetic, and I couldn't keep up.

    Then I felt so overwhelmed by the number of friends that I had to socialize with, they became an annoyance, calling me, facebooking me etc.

    I felt like all my friendships were meaningless based on shallow things, and I didn't have time to myself, so I got distant and reverted into hermit mode again.

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    I know what you mean about losing interest once you start something or after doing it for awhile.

    I don't usually relapse back to zero though, I'll stick with what I intended to do but the focus will go in an out.

    I've completely given up in the past but I don't do that anymore.

    Like right now I'm editing this message and I haven't had coffee yet so I'm finding it extremely hard to do LOL.


    But yes, I also know what you mean about the chameleon thing. I have completely changed some things about myself and then gone back to my old ways. Still though, through the reinventing process itself I learned how to do things I couldn't do before so now I cna "turn on' certain traits whenever I want to.
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    story of my life
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    Quote Originally Posted by qingdom View Post
    Otherwise, in my case, most often, if the endgame / prize no longer holds value or interest, my mind just wouldn't let me continue for continuing sake unless the whole process and procedure is integrated so deeply into my own personal schedule.
    Well, I think for people in general, they only pursue things doggedly that they really want. Everyone else is the same way; while they might bitch and moan about doing something, the truth is that they still want it more than not want it, so they just make themselves do it.

    I think in the end we value focusing on things that capture our attention more than we care about things that are disciplined in nature and just a steady plod towards a goal. Unless we really want it. That sense of being at rest / being in balance / being free to pursue whatever captures our mind at the current time and figuring it out is VERY VERY important, so much moreso that it trumps things that might be prioritized by others.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I've noticed that also applies in my life when it comes to finishing a project... when it's nearing it's conclusion, my interest or motivation drops and I pretty much half to force myself to finish it.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by joellr17 View Post
    Yeah I know exactly what you mean. In my first year of college, I wanted it to go better than high school and decided to be this super social, and energetic person, and popular.

    Thanks to my chameleon skills I re-invented myself, I manage to do it for a while, and manage to pass as kind of a mix between ENTP and ESTP, and made friendships with lots of ESTPs.

    I learned a lot from those guys, I by analyzing their behavior and coping it, I improved my social skills, confidence, and my game with women etc.

    I learned that most confidence is faked, world is uncertain and no body knows shit about anything, you just need to act as if you did.

    As a result I made a bunch of friends, and my agenda was full of social activities.

    But what happened? I got to a point where I was overwhelmed, I couldn't keep up with the ESTPs, those guy were so prone to action and energetic, and I couldn't keep up.

    Then I felt so overwhelmed by the number of friends that I had to socialize with, they became an annoyance, calling me, facebooking me etc.

    I felt like all my friendships were meaningless based on shallow things, and I didn't have time to myself, so I got distant and reverted into hermit mode again.
    Yes.. this happens to me. The 'shallow' friendships end up annoying me and I distance myself. Then I get mad at myself for not maintaining friendships.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    yeah I'm quite impatient too, but I just chose easier stuff to do - got an elliptical bike instead of running, traded the guitar for a harmonica etc.

    you're not really reinventing yourself though, just becoming a better version of you
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    After trying and failing to change things about myself countless times, I finally ended up deciding to just deal with that I've got now and not bother trying to change anything.
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    INTP - The Thinkers


    Everyone is like this. It takes true discipline to keep things going once you have announced change. Its the type of discipline you have to learn somewhere else. I keep frequent tabs on my friend and their tendency to announce "change" like they have gone through an life altering epiphany. And like most diet and exercise routine, the frequency of relapse is very very high. Like joellr17 said, our society promotes fake enthusiasm and confidence and we forget about accountability. Nobody knows shit about anything, any the more you claim you know the less you probably know. The bluffing frequency is quite high in this game due to the fact that people aren't getting looked up after pointing out "change". Everyone wants things and will announce it like its a facebook status update, but only the disciplined want it bad enough to not say a word and just go do it.
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