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    Hey, thank you for this forum it helps a lot to read you all.

    INFP here, the big brother of 4 child in a fatherless family, i'm 26, so i'm the kind of guy who work for his family but hates every minute at work. I don't need money, and if I was alone, I'll probably live like a hobo or a student for the rest of my life.
    I essentially came here to read and maybe find a kind of job I may like and get into, since everything I do is annoying and killing me slowly.
    I worked as a mover, a freight repair technician, policemen, sheep shepherd, I tried several times to get back to university to study literature, yet a week later i'm bored and can't stand in place. I wanted also to be a firefighter but can't stand people complaining lol, a carpenter, a merchant sailor officer but didn't make the test, and so on....
    I spend so much time thinking about helping others that I don't even know what I want. I don't go out, no girlfriend, almost no friends and the few I got doesn't understand anything I say, but I can't blame them so I don't hang with them, no social media as I hate it, spend my time on video games, sometimes musculation, reading and watching videos about a lot of things since I change my interest almost every week. I eat a subject then I lost interest and switch to another.
    But inside I know I'm able to do so many things, yet when I start I quickly get bored and it become a burden to continue in this path.
    I like astronomy and literature, i'm even good at writing like almost every INFP I guess. And more than anything I crave for spiritual matter, Islam, christianity, buddhism, i need to fill my heart so my eyes can see a little bit brighter this world. But when I can't, I spend litteraly all day playing video games, doing nothing, as nothing is tasteful.
    All I want is finding my path, I'm tired of watching everybody doing so much things and getting joy and contentment and when I do the same things, its not that amazing. Even travelling get me bored, same concrete, same trees, same grass. Yeah its beautiful and different, yet i'm not in my place anywhere. I know that my view on the world, and therefore my capacity of wonder and happiness is depending of how much peace I put in my heart and finding a job, an activity that makes me feel like i'm in the right place. But its seems like a far thing I will never achieve.
    Thank you guys for reading me, and feel free to answer what you want.
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    I can relate with quite a lot of what you wrote there. Frankly many jobs are terrible and soul sucking; designed for machines and not the human spirit. Figuring out your purpose for being can be half the battle. A lot of trial and error.
    I do hope you find what you're looking for on here though or it provides some clarity at least. I welcome you to the forum.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoOn View Post
    Hey, thank you for this forum it helps a lot to read you all.

    INFP here, the big brother of 4 child in a fatherless family, i'm 26, so i'm the kind of guy who work for his family but hates every minute at work. I don't need money, and if I was alone, I'll probably live like a hobo or a student for the rest of my life.
    I essentially came here to read and maybe find a kind of job I may like and get into, since everything I do is annoying and killing me slowly.
    I worked as a mover, a freight repair technician, policemen, sheep shepherd, I tried several times to get back to university to study literature, yet a week later i'm bored and can't stand in place. I wanted also to be a firefighter but can't stand people complaining lol, a carpenter, a merchant sailor officer but didn't make the test, and so on....
    I spend so much time thinking about helping others that I don't even know what I want. I don't go out, no girlfriend, almost no friends and the few I got doesn't understand anything I say, but I can't blame them so I don't hang with them, no social media as I hate it, spend my time on video games, sometimes musculation, reading and watching videos about a lot of things since I change my interest almost every week. I eat a subject then I lost interest and switch to another.
    But inside I know I'm able to do so many things, yet when I start I quickly get bored and it become a burden to continue in this path.
    I like astronomy and literature, i'm even good at writing like almost every INFP I guess. And more than anything I crave for spiritual matter, Islam, christianity, buddhism, i need to fill my heart so my eyes can see a little bit brighter this world. But when I can't, I spend litteraly all day playing video games, doing nothing, as nothing is tasteful.
    All I want is finding my path, I'm tired of watching everybody doing so much things and getting joy and contentment and when I do the same things, its not that amazing. Even travelling get me bored, same concrete, same trees, same grass. Yeah its beautiful and different, yet i'm not in my place anywhere. I know that my view on the world, and therefore my capacity of wonder and happiness is depending of how much peace I put in my heart and finding a job, an activity that makes me feel like i'm in the right place. But its seems like a far thing I will never achieve.
    Thank you guys for reading me, and feel free to answer what you want.
    I hear you. INFP, also 26. Quit my job of 2 years because it's "not what I want to do."

    I have a Bachelors, but the profession I am to become is, well, it causes me a lot of stress and I never got adjusted.

    But I have a new goal/s, I do want to get published as a novelist(watch out for me world), I want to earn and make the money to do what I really want to do as well as also help my Church and local community.

    I thought I was INFJ since I did make it through school and college and stuff, but from what I read, apparently that was all compensation because now that I'm out on my own in the adult world, I don't know where to start.

    Maybe you shouldn't spend all day playing video games and doing nothing. If anything, I learned that my MBTI should not be a way to give me an excuse (although I did that for a time--making the excuse that my personality prohibits me to be more).

    I saw this meme somewhere that we INFPs are so good at seeing the beauty and accomplishments in others, making others feel good about themselves but at the end of the day, when we look in the mirror, we're just not satisfied or content of what we see in ourselves given our idealist nature.

    People get their strength in different ways. I'm a Christian and I get my strength from the Bible, and the friends and colleagues that I work with in community service and volunteer work.

    If I didn't need the money, I'd probably just go help all the time. But I realize that I do, to help more people and understand and fulfill the purpose God has for man, and ultimately also, me.

    (No offense to people who do not believe in God or have doubt. I believe in a God who cares, not an arrogant and selfless God, but a Just God who has a plan for us despite the terrible things in this world. A compassionate God who wanted all men to be saved. (1 Tim. 2:4) Some of you may take it as a metaphor, but we have all our beliefs. I'm glad I've come to a community that respects all. Just wanted to say that. Thanks.)

    When I was unstable more turbulent INFP, I thought I sought a life of purpose--but I realize that I was being selfish and sought a life of perfection by comparing it with everyone else's, even love life. We just gotta find what's important and do our best so that we don't make ourselves regret the things we didn't do. And that in itself is purpose enough.

    You say you spend so much time helping out, could that be because it's really what you wanted to do in the first place? Maybe, maybe not. Of course, we can't be stuck doing something we don't like to do. It's easy to burn out & quit with things you think means nothing to you. That's why we look for purpose.

    My heart goes out to you. I hope and pray that you'll find that purpose, and find what it truly means to be alive! Welcome to the forum, My name is AC, INFP. (I've only really been to PerC for less than a week.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hexigoon View Post
    I can relate with quite a lot of what you wrote there. Frankly many jobs are terrible and soul sucking; designed for machines and not the human spirit. Figuring out your purpose for being can be half the battle. A lot of trial and error.
    I do hope you find what you're looking for on here though or it provides some clarity at least. I welcome you to the forum.
    Quote Originally Posted by Angel Cat View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by LoOn View Post
    Hey, thank you for this forum it helps a lot to read you all.

    INFP here, the big brother of 4 child in a fatherless family, i'm 26, so i'm the kind of guy who work for his family but hates every minute at work. I don't need money, and if I was alone, I'll probably live like a hobo or a student for the rest of my life.
    I essentially came here to read and maybe find a kind of job I may like and get into, since everything I do is annoying and killing me slowly.
    I worked as a mover, a freight repair technician, policemen, sheep shepherd, I tried several times to get back to university to study literature, yet a week later i'm bored and can't stand in place. I wanted also to be a firefighter but can't stand people complaining lol, a carpenter, a merchant sailor officer but didn't make the test, and so on....
    I spend so much time thinking about helping others that I don't even know what I want. I don't go out, no girlfriend, almost no friends and the few I got doesn't understand anything I say, but I can't blame them so I don't hang with them, no social media as I hate it, spend my time on video games, sometimes musculation, reading and watching videos about a lot of things since I change my interest almost every week. I eat a subject then I lost interest and switch to another.
    But inside I know I'm able to do so many things, yet when I start I quickly get bored and it become a burden to continue in this path.
    I like astronomy and literature, i'm even good at writing like almost every INFP I guess. And more than anything I crave for spiritual matter, Islam, christianity, buddhism, i need to fill my heart so my eyes can see a little bit brighter this world. But when I can't, I spend litteraly all day playing video games, doing nothing, as nothing is tasteful.
    All I want is finding my path, I'm tired of watching everybody doing so much things and getting joy and contentment and when I do the same things, its not that amazing. Even travelling get me bored, same concrete, same trees, same grass. Yeah its beautiful and different, yet i'm not in my place anywhere. I know that my view on the world, and therefore my capacity of wonder and happiness is depending of how much peace I put in my heart and finding a job, an activity that makes me feel like i'm in the right place. But its seems like a far thing I will never achieve.
    Thank you guys for reading me, and feel free to answer what you want.
    I hear you. INFP, also 26. Quit my job of 2 years because it's "not what I want to do."

    I have a Bachelors, but the profession I am to become is, well, it causes me a lot of stress and I never got adjusted.

    But I have a new goal/s, I do want to get published as a novelist(watch out for me world), I want to earn and make the money to do what I really want to do as well as also help my Church and local community.

    I thought I was INFJ since I did make it through school and college and stuff, but from what I read, apparently that was all compensation because now that I'm out on my own in the adult world, I don't know where to start.

    Maybe you shouldn't spend all day playing video games and doing nothing. If anything, I learned that my MBTI should not be a way to give me an excuse (although I did that for a time--making the excuse that my personality prohibits me to be more).

    I saw this meme somewhere that we INFPs are so good at seeing the beauty and accomplishments in others, making others feel good about themselves but at the end of the day, when we look in the mirror, we're just not satisfied or content of what we see in ourselves given our idealist nature.

    People get their strength in different ways. I'm a Christian and I get my strength from the Bible, and the friends and colleagues that I work with in community service and volunteer work.

    If I didn't need the money, I'd probably just go help all the time. But I realize that I do, to help more people and understand and fulfill the purpose God has for man, and ultimately also, me.

    (No offense to people who do not believe in God or have doubt. I believe in a God who cares, not an arrogant and selfless God, but a Just God who has a plan for us despite the terrible things in this world. A compassionate God who wanted all men to be saved. (1 Tim. 2:4) Some of you may take it as a metaphor, but we have all our beliefs. I'm glad I've come to a community that respects all. Just wanted to say that. Thanks.)

    When I was unstable more turbulent INFP, I thought I sought a life of purpose--but I realize that I was being selfish and sought a life of perfection by comparing it with everyone else's, even love life. We just gotta find what's important and do our best so that we don't make ourselves regret the things we didn't do. And that in itself is purpose enough.

    You say you spend so much time helping out, could that be because it's really what you wanted to do in the first place? Maybe, maybe not. Of course, we can't be stuck doing something we don't like to do. It's easy to burn out & quit with things you think means nothing to you. That's why we look for purpose.

    My heart goes out to you. I hope and pray that you'll find that purpose, and find what it truly means to be alive! Welcome to the forum, My name is AC, INFP. (I've only really been to PerC for less than a week.)
    Thank you guys for your kindness, it goes right to the heart.

    Novelist is a nice one, hope you will achieve it. I would say, INFP could achieve what they want, if only they're motivated.

    Yeah I know that it's not an excuse, its just that getting no joy and being lost in everything, day after day you could think it will be forever like this. Can't see the white light dot in the end of the tunnel. But it will come.

    I'm a believer too, and even if sometimes it piss me off to be that lost, I thank God for the fact that i'm maybe more receptive to spirituality, and when you believe that piety is the greatest quality that bring lights to everything else in you, you take INFP for a gift. My soul is my greatest concern, that's why I want to achieve something useful and fulfilling.

    Like you said, I also wanted to become something that I idealized, yet when I see what I've done for my family, I'm proud and keep on helping them. It's my test in this life. There's so much thing I wanted to do when I was in College and after, yet I stayed here and worked and raised my brothers. Today, I may not have traveled everywhere, nor have money, or even a car, but my heart is in peace, as you can't get back and change past, and I did the right thing in my opinion. When you try to destroy your ego, you start to learn life's advices. And i'm also a bit patriarchal in the good way, when I was a kid I often dreamed about being the old wise with the white beard who brings wisdom, the pillar of the family, wise and strong, and that's what I always tried to become.

    Yeah I find a lot of satisfaction when I lead my family to what I think is right for them, when I take care of them. Maybe its a path I need to dig to find a job related to this. Maybe leading people by helping them learning themselves or teaching them useful things in life. While being free in my schedule as I hate agendas and organized days, routine. If anyone got any idea ?

    See, two messages and its already better. Thanks a lot for this forum 🙂

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