lol. I really need to see Dr. Strangelove sometime. I dig the title. Watched "Clockwork Orange" last weekend, which was strange to say the least :P
Anyways. Onto the thread.
There are people out there that share this thought:
"I help everyone, but no one helps me :'( "
And I believe this is a trend that carries on with us ISFJs and it's time for it to stop ;)
Took me a bit to wrap my head around this, but look at that statement again. Do you realize how insane it is? The solution is to stop helping people who will not return the favor. It's tough, and I'm still working on it. but I'm making progress.
Assertiveness is a must. People who are gonna be dicks to you, deserve for you to be a dick back. I save my niceness, for those who are nice to me, genuinely nice. I really like being nice honestly, but Im not gonna be beating myself up over the fact that some people will use that to use me.
Here's a good example, I'm pretty happy for myself. So at work today, I was working with this girl, and she was talking to a new manager of ours, and they were joking and stuff. Not doing anything. I just got back from break, so she had a till to be able to sell stuff. A customer approaches her till, and she directs him over to my till, and continues talking to the manager. I'm thinking "what the [email protected]? She could easily help them, and not only that, she's not doing ANYTHING instead" so I was getting pretty bent out of shape over this, and annoyed, so I finally decided to do something about it. I went and grabbed a pen, meanwhile checking if she was still logged on to be selling. I go up to her
"You can sell cards right?"
"well... yeah I can but..."
"Alright, I'm going on floor then"
and I left the counter. And walked around the floor for a couple hours. I mean seriously. This way shes actually doing something, and Im actually doing something. We come to work, to work. Simple as that, and I dont deserve that.
So i think you really gotta start stating your mind. Start standing up for yourself. I think a few of us deal with stuff like this, and guess what? We kind of bring it on ourselves.