This is a discussion on Stream of Consciousness thread within the ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; Originally Posted by Sela I'm of a certain age, and so am I. This sucks. I'm having side effects from ...
Sharing my thoughts with you folks again today: As many of you know already we ISTJ's are not robots although many people seem to believe that we are. A post that one of my friends shared on Social Media last night really struck a nerve with me. The post itself said, "Have you ever been so sad that it physically hurts inside?", to which I can wholeheartedly say YES. I tend to hide my own feelings quite well, because although I have them, I do not trust them much and in this case, believe that if I shared my thoughts with anyone here they would think I was nuts.
The short version: The first time it happened I ended up in tears privately in the toilets and while I'm not to that point again yet, I've had days that have been close. Anyway... my current Supervisor (confirmed INTJ) is leaving on Sabbatical for a year and when he comes back he's just going to teach. One of my former Supervisors (extremely suspected ESTJ) was "just" an Interim Chair in my former department for close to two years and finally went back to his own department (the department I ended up going to last year). So... I'll get to work with these two amazing former supervisors but it's just killing me because they both treated me so well and now in a couple of months I'll have a new Supervisor (will be Supervisor #8 FWIW) and I DON'T WANT A DIFFERENT SUPERVISOR.
I think my son's girlfriend is an ISFJ. This is excellent news. I know we're not supposed to have favorites, but really, if you had to come up with a type that would make the best son's girlfriend/daughter-in-law, wouldn't ISFJ be at the top of the list? Of course it would.
I should have become a therapist. I listen and "give my opinion" on friends' circumstances all the time. I'm pretty accurate, but only because I really have a deep understanding of human nature/behavior. Went to dinner with a friend who is going through a divorce, and often in my words of encouragement to her she would start to cry ... only because what I said hit home.
I struggle with it sometimes, wondering my value to people and my friends. There isn't really anyone around who asks about me or how I'm doing. It's more a rushed response as a means to remain polite, but they don't really want to know. It's not like it's their fault, not everyone knows how to respond to more than a simple 'I'm well' response. It can just feel really isolating at times. At least for me.
Last edited by Prismatic Butterfly; 10-06-2019 at 08:25 PM.
It may seem like people don't want to know, and of course some people really don't, but I think a lot of people are just ridiculously busy these days. IMHO, technology is making us all a little crazy, overwhelmed and scattered.
I dunno…. maybe I'm wrong.
Wow we have like 4 people here now, woo!
Back down to 3, woo!