[ISFJ] A pretty face doesn't mean a pretty heart?

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This is a discussion on A pretty face doesn't mean a pretty heart? within the ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; Out of curiosity, how much do you agree with this statement? Any real life examples to back it up?...

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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    A pretty face doesn't mean a pretty heart?

    Out of curiosity, how much do you agree with this statement? Any real life examples to back it up?
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    I completely agree with this statement! Just because a person is pretty does not mean that they are kind, nice, or benevolent. It's pretty much like the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover." You can't judge a person's personality based on how they look. Sure there are plenty of pretty people out there who are amazing, but at the same time there are other beautiful people who are just plain horrible. You can't trust someone just based on looks. Actions speak a lot louder and clearer.

    There was a girl at my high school who was very nice looking, but she was the most manipulative person I have ever known. She barely paid attention in class and somehow always got to cheat off of other people. If she considered someone her friend, it was pretty much a one-sided type deal where the friend was expected to listen to all of her problems, tend to her every need and bout of sadness or worry, while if the friends ever needed anything, she would be "busy" or would even say it wasn't important to her. She was so selfish, so impolite, and quite the bitch, which I don't say lightly. But like I said, she was beautiful.

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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    Quote Originally Posted by Arroe View Post
    Actions speak a lot louder and clearer.

    There was a girl at my high school who was very nice looking, but she was the most manipulative person I have ever known. .....always got to cheat off of other people. .... the friend was expected to listen to all of her problems....She was so selfish, so impolite, and quite the bitch, which I don't say lightly. But like I said, she was beautiful.
    For the good looking people, I think the excessive attention they get can cloud their mind.
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    Quote Originally Posted by hello317 View Post
    For the good looking people, I think the excessive attention they get can cloud their mind.
    That could be. A lot of cute children grow up having everything handed to them by the people around them, and as they grow older, they may just expect that to continue since they don't know of things working any other way. And if they're lucky, everything in life will be given to them. I just wish there would be a class in humility that everyone could take so that they would be more respectful of those around them.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Quote Originally Posted by Arroe View Post
    I just wish there would be a class in humility that everyone could take so that they would be more respectful of those around them.
    Sow the wind, reap the whirlwind.
    ... and to answer the original question, "Pretty is as pretty does".
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    its true sometimes with few exceptions that i have seen. I think the problem is that extremely beautiful people grow up realizing that they get positive attention and love without having to be polite or kind, so therefore why do it? This is not always the case as some beautiful people have learned that beauty isnt everything and that we all get ugly someday.

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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    In some ways I disagree with the statement. I guess if someone's a mean person, it might show on their face (through facial expressions and how they carry themselves). Maybe they have attractive features, but I can't see them as pretty.

    On the other hand, maybe this is all psychological. If I were to see random pictures of people, I wouldn't necessarily be able to tell if someone was a decent person, though I could still rate them on attractiveness. Maybe I would rate someone down in attractiveness if I saw them doing something mean (subconsciously, of course).
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    ESFP - The Performers


    yes, I agree that somebody's physical attractiveness is irrelevant as to whether they're a 'good' person, i.e. kind, generous, compassionate, empathetic, etc.

    but my perception of a person's attractiveness is greatly influenced by how I feel about them, so yeah, if they're a good person then I'd perceive them as a lot more attractive than if they're not, even if they're the same person.
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    I couldn't help but notice that so far, only females have posted. So let me break the ice for other male ISFJs who may want to post.

    I do agree with the statement on the whole of what it says, just because someone looks nice doesn't mean they are. But I will argue that the appearance of someone, male or female, does say something about them. Not everything one would need to know about them though, but there are trends such as that someone dressed very wealthy is used to being treated as such, or may not be a fan of hard work. While it may sound like I'm being too stereotypically and am 'judging a book by it's cover' (which I have a friend who says you actually can by looking at the design of the book), there are those 'books' out there that exceed expectations and go against typical trends, which when surpassing those expectations in a positive way is when a person is truly head and shoulders above the rest.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hello317 View Post
    Out of curiosity, how much do you agree with this statement? Any real life examples to back it up?
    Completely. I've known a number of people who others found "oh so attractive" but I found utterly repellent because of their personality. It mostly happened when I was in high school. There were female classmates, some of them cheerleaders, who were widely considered attractive who were terrible human beings. Cruel, selfish, ignorant beasts.

    Lipstick on a pig.

    The reverse is also true. I've dated women and had friends ask me why, because they didn't find her attractive. >_< Um, you don't need to find her attractive, she's MINE.
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