Hi I had a question for the male ISTJs to answer. I'm a super sensitive INFP and I'm dating an ISTJ.
(to sum up the essay I wrote below... I've been seeing this guy for a month (my ex.. we decided to start over and take things slow this time.....) and it has been amazing, him courting me and taking me on dates, skyping, calling almost nightly, texting, opening up to me emotionally (as best as he could do).. things he never used to do. He was really showing me a different side to him that I knew was hard for him to do. this last weekend though we got carried away... it was so amazing on saturday.. so romantic.. I should've left sunday morning while things were cutely romantic .. and for some reason I did because I was so in love with him and wanted to show him I cared about him (he told me that morning he didn't want to put a time limit for sexual stuff though when we first got in contact he said he'd wait months..)... He made it seem like we were in a relationship from the day before how all the sweet words how he said we're meant to be together and stuff...I wanted to wait at least 3 months before sexual stuff cuz my soul really gets involved and sex is just scary for me... and i wanted to make sure he was emotionally attached first.. We didn't have sex but I feel like it was just as bad how he's been ignoring me.. :/
So he left on monday to his 2 week post deployment leave to visit his family and he's been ignoring me since TUESDAY night. it's now FRIDAY... no pain quite as bad as this pain. the false promises... so cold to just ignore me for 5 days ...
MY QUESTION FOR ISTJ MALES: does he just need space? did the sexual thing we did ruin everything since it had only been a month? is he unable to double task his family time and texting me? Is being out of state make it impossible for him to communicate? is he completely tired out from the affection that he needs a break? are his words truth or just lies ? can I reverse when he comes back by starting over, getting to know each other- with no sexual stuff for 3 months like I intended?