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This is a discussion on How did you meet your SO? within the ISTJ Forum - The Duty Fulfillers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; I thought it might be interesting to tell a little bit about how each of us met our significant other. ...

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    How did you meet your SO?

    I thought it might be interesting to tell a little bit about how each of us met our significant other. For some of us, that will be a recent memory, but for others it may take a little longer trip down memory lane. Feel free to share as much or as little as you feel comfortable sharing.

    I met SWMBO when I was 21 and she was 17. I had been deeply hurt in a prior relationship and had taken two years off from any type of romantic interaction with girls while I was recovering from this failed relationship. So I met SWMBO near the end of this two year period when I visited my old church where she was now attending.

    I was tired of auto repair at this time, and was looking for a job. SWMBO's dad (The Preacher--he's a lay preacher) was hiring, so I hit him up for a job. That worked out, so I started working for him.

    So while I'm working for The Preacher (yeah I married the bosses' daughter), he asked me to fix her car. Her brother (The Terrorist) was irresponsible when it comes to mechanical devices and he had borrowed her car to visit some girl and managed to burn up the engine on the trip. So, even against my better judgment, I agreed to fix her lime green Fiat 124 Spyder. Remember that she is an ENFP and purchases items on their cute value, not their practicality.

    So I'm working on her car on weekends and evenings. A car that has limited parts availability since it is no longer sold in this country. It's taking a while, and she and I have had this topic of interest to discuss (her car) and we are seeing each other regularly at church (I've started attending my old church again) and when she comes by The Preacher's job site (construction). The conversations naturally branch out and we become friends.

    Her mom, SWAB (She Without A Brain), was tired of taking SWMBO to work, so The Preacher asked me to help out with the logistics. So SWMBO and I found ourselves on these 20 minute jaunts morning and evening sharing rides to and from work. It became a great way to get to really know each other.

    After about three months of this, we were deeply connected and felt we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. I popped the question and SWMBO said yes. Fireworks ensued and life was wonderful. No, we had not even kissed or held hands at this point.

    Then we told The Preacher and SWAB. Now the fireworks were for real.

    First The Preacher was in high dudgeon that some low life hired hand was impertinently daring to ask for his esteemed daughter's hand in marriage. Since The Preacher was so offended and against the idea, that meant that SWAB was automatically for it. After a few days, The Preacher came around, which of course then meant that SWAB was now against us getting married. Interesting relationship that The Preacher and SWAB had.

    It was during this time that I learned how to properly focus on a kiss. While driving. Mr. Einstein was right. I have the ticket to prove it.

    SWAB ended up pushing buttons and trying the control thing, which just doesn't work with this ISTJ. So I married SWMBO the day after she turned 18.

    We were married after only one formal date. A date that occurred after we were engaged.

    The Preacher is now cool with me and has told me that he wished all of his daughter's would marry as well as SWMBO. This of course means that SWAB still is against the marriage. Somethings never change.

    The Fiat? Well I fixed it and we sold it after we were married. Our marriage is possibly the only good thing to ever come from owning a Fiat.

    Ok, that's enough from me. What's your story?



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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers


    wow an ENFP huh?? there seems to be a lot of opposite-personality type relationships on PC


    I met my ISTP boyfriend at school- we were in the same statistics class. it was kind of like a love-at-first-sight thing, though I did make him do a lot of chasing... he'll never know that though

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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    That is a lovely story Niss. Nothing like that happened to me when i was 21, and I have had a series of relationships that all ended for one reason or another.

    Over the last year, I have found dating websites (match etc) to be very good for meeting potential girlfriends. I am quite a strong ISTJ, having very low/ virtually nonexistent N and F qualities means that I often miss the subtle signs of interest from the opposite sex, so internet dating works well for me.

    Oh, and the Fiat 124 Spider is a lovely looking car! But then I am a bit of a classic car fan.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Johnnyguitarman View Post
    That is a lovely story Niss. Nothing like that happened to me when i was 21, and I have had a series of relationships that all ended for one reason or another.

    Over the last year, I have found dating websites (match etc) to be very good for meeting potential girlfriends. I am quite a strong ISTJ, having very low/ virtually nonexistent N and F qualities means that I often miss the subtle signs of interest from the opposite sex, so internet dating works well for me.

    Oh, and the Fiat 124 Spider is a lovely looking car! But then I am a bit of a classic car fan.
    You should post a few pictures of your projects. I would like to see them. Then again, I bleed 10w30. :)

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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Well, you'll probably be able to guess where this story begins...

    Two years ago, I went to the first fencing practice of the year. The coach (ooh yeah ) was very interesting. He was young (24 at the time), talented, intelligent and aloof. Soon however, aloof seemed arrogant and condescending (INTJ). I couldn't stand being around him. In the words of Elizabeth Bennet, "I could easily forgive his pride, if he had not mortified mine." About this time, my best friend mentions that she thinks he and I would be a good match. I was horrified and denied vehemently the possibility of such a pair. And yet, over the next few weeks, I couldn't help but notice, perhaps what I had taken for conceit and pride wasn't all there was to him. Besides that, in an odd turn of events, I began to be attracted to his self-confidence.

    By the end of the year, there was no denying I was extremely attracted to him. This past year was spent painstakingly exchanging subtleties. I'm not one to go out on limb emotionally. My bfff and I analyzed and attempted to interpret everything-- within reason, and I bounced numerous theories off her. I spent months not being able to tell what exactly he thought of me, it was terrible. If only I knew! Even if it was not what I wanted to hear, just to finally know would have been enough! I started to be a little bit more obvious second semester, and things were really looking good.

    It turns out just about everybody in the club was convinced he liked me, I was still not completely convinced. Truthfully, I knew all the facts pointed to their conclusion, but I didn't want to believe it too soon. It's not something many people around me know, but a few years ago I was hurt very badly and it took nearly three years for me to fully recover. It was a completely private affair and nobody saw any of my pain. But I digress... I just knew I was not prepared to take another blow like that.

    Fast forward to the last fencing party of the year, 3 days before I leave for home. For various reasons, it would have been wiser to wait until this fall for us to establish anything, but I couldn't bear the though of a summer spent wondering. Enough was enough. I took us off somewhere alone outside and one thing leads to another, and we're in a relationship. My first kiss was more like... first make out.

    It's been lame to spend our first month together, well, not together, but we talk online very frequently and it's interesting to get to know my Mr. Darcy on a different level. I had the last couple of Saturdays off of work (including last night) and he came down to visit me both weekends and we went hiking and to dinner and last night, laid beneath the stars on the parkway. I'm starting to think he likes me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fievre View Post

    It's been lame to spend our first month together, well, not together, but we talk online very frequently and it's interesting to get to know my Mr. Darcy on a different level. I had the last couple of Saturdays off of work (including last night) and he came down to visit me both weekends and we went hiking and to dinner and last night, laid beneath the stars on the parkway. I'm starting to think he likes me.
    That's such a neat story! I'm glad you shared it.

    I sometimes grab SWMBO and smother her with kisses, saying Mrs. ______, Mrs. ______, Mrs. ______, while using the same tone of voice he used in Pride and Prejudice. Of course she laughs and pulls away---it's all in good fun.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Aww, I always love reading the mushy and romantic stories of "T's"! More, more! (Please.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by lbrb View Post
    Aww, I always love reading the mushy and romantic stories of "T's"! More, more! (Please.)
    NFs are fair game, too. Tell us your story.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I hate that I have not replied sooner, but my youngest daughter was hospitalized recently and I'm just now getting caught up on things. My story will be posted soon!
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    ISFP - The Artists

    Your story is sooooo sweet Niss!!!! Have you two been married for a while now?
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