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This is a discussion on Does this ISTP like me? within the ISTP Forum - The Mechanics forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; I'll try and make this as brief as possible - but It'll probably be long anyway. Sorry! I know there ...

  1. #1
    ENFJ

    Does this ISTP like me?

    I'll try and make this as brief as possible - but It'll probably be long anyway. Sorry! I know there are several threads similar to the whole 'how to know if an ISTP likes you' thing but I suppose it's nice to have responses to your own specific situation, so here goes.

    I'm in high school and there's a boy in one of my classes who I find rather attractive, but admittedly probably wouldn't actually date having considered how compatible we really would be in a relationship. :(
    However, his recent behaviour, when paired with my knowledge of ISTPs' usual behaviour, has got me wondering if he actually might feel the same, though I used to simply assume that he totally didn't. I used to assume so due to him being so reserved and difficult to read. I'd appreciate if someone could help me decode his mysterious behaviour.

    He has went completely red on certain occasions at little things when talking to me. He always smiles when talking to me too, and sometimes when I am saying something to someone else and he is listening from the other side of the table, he will smile to himself. (But this tends to be if I do something silly or make a joke, not just randomly.)
    I've noticed him possibly doing the peripheral-vision stare when i've spoke to another guy - i.e. staring intently at the wall near me when he had no reason to be completely turned around in his seat. There's occasional teasing, some self-deprecating jokes. He tends to (subtly) show off often too, particularly about getting good grades, or he will make fun of other guys when we're together in a group. He also loves to act all macho and masculine. But I don't know if this is just his personality. The grades thing could also just be competition, as I suppose I have a reputation as the 'smartest' in the class.
    There was a period of time where he would always start conversations with me too, like a lot, and mention my name frequently, but he does it less now. I can't help but think it's because I totally acted like he was friend-zoned, and even called him 'mate' once - it was pretty much after this. Also, he didn't speak this way to the other girls in the class.He has sort of complimented me, as in "you have a cool name" or "ah, of course you'd get the best score." which is unusual for him. He stares when he's sure I'm not looking, but I've heard that ISTPs just do this anyway. He made an offensive joke once and thought I was offended and so sent me a small paragraph that he's "Really super mega sorry", which seemed unusual because he usually just calls people pussies for not being able to take a joke And once ended a message with "xx" which is again, weird from him. (hahaha I'm such an idiot xx)

    BUT... sometimes he just doesn't seem to care. Perhaps it seems like this because i'm comparing his behaviour with how I would act if I liked someone. For example, he doesn't reply to my messages on the group chat - though I personally would reply straight away if it means i get to speak to him hahah. In group discussions, sometimes he just seems completely uninterested too. He's stuck in his own little world. It feels like he just doesn't care! So confusing, as some days he is completely reserved and will interact voluntarily with nobody in class, but lately he's been acting very outgoing and energetic.

    Thanks for reading my essay, I'd seriously appreciate any responses.



  2. #2
    ISTP

    Quote Originally Posted by Cation View Post
    BUT... sometimes he just doesn't seem to care. Perhaps it seems like this because i'm comparing his behaviour with how I would act if I liked someone. For example, he doesn't reply to my messages on the group chat - though I personally would reply straight away if it means i get to speak to him hahah. In group discussions, sometimes he just seems completely uninterested too. He's stuck in his own little world. It feels like he just doesn't care! So confusing, as some days he is completely reserved and will interact voluntarily with nobody in class, but lately he's been acting very outgoing and energetic.
    His actions tell me that he has some interest in you. I don't know whether it's an just a friend, but the fact that he treats you differently than others says that he feels about you differently than he feels about others.

    As far as group interaction goes, I dislike group interaction with people that are I feel differently about. I don't mind a group interaction with all friends, but I do mind a group interaction with a mixture of friends and non friends. In case of the latter I'd likely act more distant with my friends as well, because I don't want our friendship aired in front of everyone. With friends I generally prefer one on one interactions. Even in a group of only friends I don't get as personal as I would in one on one. So if he's anything like me, then try to chat with him on personal chats rather than group ones.

    I hope that's somewhat useful.

  3. #3
    ENFJ

    Quote Originally Posted by gte View Post
    I don't mind a group interaction with all friends, but I do mind a group interaction with a mixture of friends and non friends. In case of the latter I'd likely act more distant with my friends as well, because I don't want our friendship aired in front of everyone.
    I see what you mean by that and he does indeed seem to not be very keen on huge group discussions. In fact, he only ever focuses on one person when he speaks now that you mention it. Thanks!

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    With the little you shared, it sounds like he likes you to me. My ISTP husband hates group chats.

    Also,
    some days he is completely reserved and will interact voluntarily with nobody in class, but lately he's been acting very outgoing and energetic.
    That generally comes and goes. In my experience, I'd say ISTPs can appear pretty extroverted at times, when they feel comfortable. Quiet mostly though.

  6. #5
    ISTP

    Ask him.

  7. #6
    ENFJ

    Quote Originally Posted by twirler View Post
    In my experience, I'd say ISTPs can appear pretty extroverted at times, when they feel comfortable. Quiet mostly though.
    Thank you! I am starting to understand it all a bit more nowadays. You're right in that sometimes he goes right in for the conversation, even in the group, and does indeed seem extraverted. He even messages me first, starting conversation about something I said on the group on PM at times, and is very friendly. But yeah - friendly. His snapchats are mugshots and I'm probably friend zoned lol No clue how i'll go about differentiating between the two.
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    ENFJ

    ask? Unfortunately, I'm far too chicken to do something like that without being reasonably sure I am not just a friend. It would kill the friendship too!
    I forgot my name thanked this post.

  9. #8
    ENFJ

    Well, if anyone happens to be reading this, I know the answer now... Yes, he does 🙂


     

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