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This is a discussion on Fe in ISTP within the ISTP Forum - The Mechanics forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; I'm wondering if this is really an ISTP trait from me but... As I tend to be pretty insecure in ...

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    Fe in ISTP

    I'm wondering if this is really an ISTP trait from me but...
    As I tend to be pretty insecure in my Fe, I only trust it when it's sincere.
    For example, I had this INTJ who liked to be playful with his Fi, and I had to put energy into my Fe to feed it.
    But once something's off, it's ruined.
    This is why I want my Fe to be genuine: it costs energy, so use it wisely.

    Also because it is insecure, I generally try to take other people into account when possible and reasonable (it wasn't like that in the past though, it's part of self-improvement). But all in all I'm still introverted.

    How does this manifest with you?
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    Can you be more specific with your example?

    I have pretty good use of my Fe, so I probably won't identify with it, but I think it will benefit you in terms of the purpose of this thread...

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    For me it's more of a vulnerability. I don't like mistrust/bad relationships but: 1. My people skills are not that good; 2. I would not invest a lot of time/energy with other people.

    You can definitely improve your people skill by learning and practicing. For example if that INTJ is using Fi playfully, you can playfully say no when you need to go back to your own world. Boundary and understanding about self/others are important.

    But no matter how willing I am to practice people skills, I will never compare to types with dom/aux/ter Fe, because the majority of my time will be spent on Ti/Se projects (in order to have an authentic life).

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    I spent a lot of time and energy developing my Fe in my early twenties. Consequently, I don't think I give off the impression of having poor social skills or being inconsiderate, just quiet and a little shy. A lot of people have told me I'm friendly, warm, even sweet. So externally using Fe is not much of a problem, but internally I'm still insecure about it. I always wonder if I said anything wrong, used the wrong tone of voice, if I left too early, should have said or done something else, etc. I analyze people's facial expressions and reactions toward me and if I'm having a bad day I'm almost unconvinced I ruin everything and am a bad person. So pretty much I have a mini-Fe-dom having a meltdown in my brain. At times I find it's actually better to ignore Fe, it can be counterproductive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lord Thanksalot View Post
    I had this INTJ who liked to be playful with his Fi, and I had to put energy into my Fe to feed it.
    Can you give an example of how the INTJ was being playful with Fi?
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    I just remembered how good (the positive, non-petty kind of) Fe interactions make me feel (but the negative petty kind can be really nasty). I do need Fe in my life, but I'd hesitate to go into relationships with high Fe people, because it's not fair that they give so much and I give so little.

    One example of the right degree/balance of Fe for me is between John McClain and Al Powell in Die Hard 1. They practically never saw each other for 99% of the film, but they trusted each other so much based on how each acted. My only complaint is that I wish Al Powell could have less watching and more actions himself.

    Another good example is Star Trek TNG which I'm currently watching: all the Fe there were the non-petty kind and everyone always had a higher goal in mind even when they were in conflict. Though the amount of Fe there is a bit higher than I'd prefer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Liove View Post
    Can you give an example of how the INTJ was being playful with Fi?
    I don't see. (Fi) is precisely not a game. (Se) yes.
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    INTJ using Fi playfully: I imagine it's like playfully talking about how to dominate the world

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    Fe is the function I value significantly and find benefits in its usage, but it is too overwhelming and exhaustive in total use. I can get sympathetic and caring even unintentionally toward everyone, and treating everyone with respect is something I basically do because humility is a great bridge of neutrality and unprovocative-ness. Of course, I'm not like this all the time: I only do this where the person is rational and/or not petty, as respecting while they are unreceptive is kissing ass. Lord knows how many FJs (and even ExTPs) that have kissed asses and not realize they are being used (no offense to the FJs and ExTPs as I am telling my experience with higher Fe users). If it is possible, I treat everyone with respect, fairness, and dignity. Otherwise, I get neutral and indifferent and could care less. Respect is a two ways street, and if I can't give or wouldn't care to give it, I wouldn't expect it to come to me. Same for vice versa.

    As for social skills, I suppose being sober is enough to not provoke or alienate anyone who wants to socialize with me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Xool Xecutioner View Post
    Lord knows how many FJs (and even ExTPs) that have kissed asses and not realize they are being used (no offense to the FJs and ExTPs as I am telling my experience with higher Fe users).
    only an istp would think an estp user using fe is ass kissing


     
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