This is a discussion on So how do you show interest in people you want to talk to /get to know? within the ISTP Forum - The Mechanics forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by HyperRoyalty Physically or digitally? Both....
Or just come up to them and say hi, I guess... That works 80% of the time...
You do this magical, rare unicorn-like thing called 'speak' to them. Radical. I know.
And your awkward inferior Fe asks them questions like:
Start with general questions that can turn into conversation. For example, “Where are you from?” That question can be interpreted in different ways which is fine. Some will tell you alot, some will be more reserved.
You can always talk about the weather. You may think that’s a cliche or unimaginative but it works. You start those conversations by making a joke about the weather, like sarcasm. “Thought I already showered.” “That sun is cooking a dinner.” “I know where you can get a good tan.”
If you see someone that needs help or directions, help them immediately. Don’t second guess, just try to be helpful even if you have to lead them to someone else that could help.
I talk without the official style implemented.
i listen to see if there's a conversation i can slide into and do it. i admittedly often base my friendships initially on shared interests (especially music). i try not to come on too strong, as i've been told i intimidate potential friends because i have no sense of volume control, so i usually try to make it slick, like "accidentally" overhearing they like the band i do, etc.
like i said similar interests catch my eye or if their personality and vibe is interesting to me i'll find a way to talk to them.