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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    what istp's want as opposed to what an istp NEEDS!

    in relationships would an istp want someone who doesn't ask much in terms of emotional support?
    would a fuck buddy type relationship appeal to an istp?
    would being with someone who is sensitive be a big turn off to an istp?
    would u be happier with someone who didn't challenge u emotionally?
    and finally do u as an istp think u would learn anything in terms of ur growth and self development if u met a person who gave u everything u want as opposed to what u NEED?
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    I don't think it's good for anybody to only get what one wants. We need to overcome obstacles to grow. On the other hand, I would never commit to a relationship where I couldn't relax and be myself without causing strain on my partner.

    So in short, I would avoid any deep relationships with people who need very much emotional support, even though I'll gladly support my wife when she needs such support. I couldn't stand living with a person who needed me around all the time, but I'll gladly spend more time with my wife than I'd do with any other friend of mine.
    Also, I hate overly sensitive people. Living with one would drive me crazy.

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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Yeah I can't live with feelers. I end up crushing them and I get sooo pissed off when I have to deal with emotional stuff that seems unnecessary. I'm only attracted to men who are T's anyway, so thankfully I don't end up in that situation.

    But in other areas I'm open to change. Like being a disorganized and irresponsible person...I'm open to challenges on that. I'm also attracted to E's just because they are so comfortable around other people and I try to absorb that. lol

    So it just depends on what area we're talking about. The T/F area is the one where I can't compromise or I lose my sanity.

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    I'm an ENTP, but I know a couple of ISTPs quite well...

    I think the biggest turn-off is insisting on talking about emotions, especially in a whiny manner, but in any manner really.
    There's a quote from a movie I love that sums an ISTP up, I think: "Talking about love is like dancing about architecture."
    They start squirming as soon as you start talking... If you want an emotional display, rather pay attention to their actions.

    I'd suggest just taking a "happy go lucky" aproach, and not bring up emotions or sensitivity much.
    ISTPs I know don't seem to prefer " fuck buddy" relationships, though. The way it looks to me, they like a relationship to seem casual enough for them to kid themselves they're not tied down when they get a panic attack, but still a real relationship for them to feel at home and comfy.

    (I'm not an ISTP, I'm not sure how much of this applies to ISTPs in general, and not just to few I know)
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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Quote Originally Posted by Malkovich View Post
    I'm an ENTP, but I know a couple of ISTPs quite well...
    There's a quote from a movie I love that sums an ISTP up, I think: "Talking about love is like dancing about architecture."
    They start squirming as soon as you start talking...
    100% true

    Quote Originally Posted by Malkovich View Post
    ISTPs I know don't seem to prefer " fuck buddy" relationships, though. The way it looks to me, they like a relationship to seem casual enough for them to kid themselves they're not tied down when they get a panic attack,
    also 100% true.
    jeez.

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    Quote Originally Posted by MissFixit View Post
    100% true



    also 100% true.
    jeez.
    Heh, I knew I got you all figured out!

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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Quote Originally Posted by teabiscits View Post
    in relationships would an istp want someone who doesn't ask much in terms of emotional support?
    An occasional good solid hug is about the right amount.


    Quote Originally Posted by teabiscits View Post
    would a fuck buddy type relationship appeal to an istp?
    No.

    Quote Originally Posted by teabiscits View Post
    would being with someone who is sensitive be a big turn off to an istp?
    If you mean thin-skinned, yes. If you mean sensitive to the world around them, etc, no.


    Quote Originally Posted by teabiscits View Post
    would u be happier with someone who didn't challenge u emotionally?
    Not necessarily. It's our area of growth.


    Quote Originally Posted by teabiscits View Post
    and finally do u as an istp think u would learn anything in terms of ur growth and self development if u met a person who gave u everything u want as opposed to what u NEED?
    Every human being grows through challenge. ISTPs are egalitarians and look at the people in our lives as equal partners, not as sources of our wants or needs.

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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Sorry and I know this will not be taken well even by the ISTPs who may find the topic of interest, but is it just me or are there quite a few threads about ISTPs in relationships? Are we just that enigmatic when it comes to relationships, that inquiring minds want to know? I guess I may need to rethink my type if in general ISTPs like discussing this, because it does nothing for me. No offense.

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    ESTP - The Doers


    I get kinda grossed out when the conversation turns into nostalgia about lamb chop and barney and "how great they were". Yeah Barney is cool, he'd be fun to put into a trebuchet and launched into the side of an office complex.

    My limited experience with feelers made things much more fantastical and imaginary than they really were. They were really nice and caring toward other people, but in the end I think I would rather date a bitch. Just more interesting, and you can ignore them and they like you even more for some reason. But dating a feeler is a new experience. I'm still undecided, haven't met any that I was really attracted to.

    Quote Originally Posted by Functianalyst View Post
    Sorry and I know this will not be taken well even by the ISTPs who may find the topic of interest, but is it just me or are there quite a few threads about ISTPs in relationships? Are we just that enigmatic when it comes to relationships, that inquiring minds want to know? I guess I may need to rethink my type if in general ISTPs like discussing this, because it does nothing for me. No offense.
    No I think we're just that sexy. All these threads are XNFP's faults. I think we just like giving advice.

    Also thinking about what I NEED doesn't really make much sense to me unless its in line with my dreams. If I wanted to be a car mechanic my whole life, I'd probably waste no time learning to write poetry.

    If you're ENFP and you have amazing breasts, I might reconsider what I actually need.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Functianalyst View Post
    Sorry and I know this will not be taken well even by the ISTPs who may find the topic of interest, but is it just me or are there quite a few threads about ISTPs in relationships? Are we just that enigmatic when it comes to relationships, that inquiring minds want to know? I guess I may need to rethink my type if in general ISTPs like discussing this, because it does nothing for me. No offense.
    ISTPs in general, and several other personality types, don't like discussing relationships. xNFPs do. So xNFPs make use of internet forums to ask the questions they don't usually get answers to. And, ISTPs would generally not be bothered discussing relationships on the internet either anymore than in real life, but if it's just a question of a few sentences that will apparently make some xNFP feel better and probably give them a bit of insight of their own, they're kind enough and obliging enough to do so.
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