[cypresstree]

Edit: I think this was mean. I like ISTP's.

[VioletEvergarden]

Also mocking the fact that people wanted to help just comes across as petty and arrogant. And little bit of genuine humility would be highly desirable.

Eh, I wouldn't really consider that 'mocking' someone.

[Antrist]

You know you are an istp when you think you re the only type who is not in distress over a minor traffic accident. Sometimes i think you guys need to get over yourselves. Anyone can react similarly in such a situation.

Also mocking the fact that people wanted to help just comes across as petty and arrogant. And little bit of genuine humility would be highly desirable.

I only found it a little funny after she'd asked for the seventh time.

Seriously, those people were so helpful. Two guys stood my bike up and pushed it to the kerb for me, and it's because they got me through it so fast that I was able to just get up and ride again. The woman was a little bit frantic because she didn't really see what happened (she was the car in front's passenger) and I may/may not have head-butted her bumper a little bit. I suppose laughing 'at' her is not really what happened. More like, just finding it funny.

I like the way you suddenly feel like you have to tell me to get over myself despite the fact you have no idea what happened.
Bonus points for stabbing at the whole ISTP-type. (y)

[petitpèlerin]

You know you are an istp when you think you re the only type who is not in distress over a minor traffic accident. Sometimes i think you guys need to get over yourselves. Anyone can react similarly in such a situation.

Also mocking the fact that people wanted to help just comes across as petty and arrogant. And little bit of genuine humility would be highly desirable.

I don't think I'm the only type who doesn't think accidents are no big deal unless there are significant injuries or damage involved. I just get frustrated when other people come on scene, become emotional, and can't get past their emotion and see the reality that I just have a little scrape and everything's fine. It's about efficiency: what needs to be done to resolve the problem. Emotional people on scene are just an obstruction to a clean managing of the situation. Professional first responders know that the first thing that needs to be done when arriving on scene is get the emotional people out of the way so they can work. xSTPs are naturally disposed to take that approach to things. It's not that we don't have emotions, it's that we don't react to things emotionally.

Right now we ISTPs who have all had some version of that experience are just bonding over it, even if there's some ego involved, but it's not hurting anyone, it's just venting and bonding. A different version of the same thing goes on in each type's forum. And someone who shows up in a forum and tells everybody there that they need to get over themselves needs to get over themself.

[Mariette]

I only found it a little funny after she'd asked for the seventh time.

Seriously, those people were so helpful. Two guys stood my bike up and pushed it to the kerb for me, and it's because they got me through it so fast that I was able to just get up and ride again. The woman was a little bit frantic because she didn't really see what happened (she was the car in front's passenger) and I may/may not have head-butted her bumper a little bit. I suppose laughing 'at' her is not really what happened. More like, just finding it funny.

I like the way you suddenly feel like you have to tell me to get over myself despite the fact you have no idea what happened.
Bonus points for stabbing at the whole ISTP-type. (y)

And i like that you explained what happened :) also, i did not tell you to get over yourself but you guys - istps. but then again i have a lot of affection for people who are of this type, and motorcycle accidents or not you people are quite courageous.
well, except when it comes to matters of heart :) then you fall for an infp and all of your walls start crumbling and its suddenly an emergency situation. only this time its not funny, but really scary ;)

but when it comes to you, Alex, your post about a little girl calling you your real name and your reaction lingered in my mind for a while. sometimes, there are situations when one can witness a tough and invincible istp being touched by someones tenderness (although you might call it "awkward") and i find it very sweet and moving (i assume this wouldnt be your preferred adjectives ;)).

[Mariette]

You must have developed methods that I clearly have not. I have been surfing here for a while, and of all the sections, the INFP's are my least understood pile of threads that I have read. I have actually taken to reading them with frequency, because their use of a whole other language really appeals to me...in a learning curve kinda way. They make almost no sense at all. I was reading one recently, so very many ways of saying the same thing, so many uses of words in new ways, so much wondering over something I thought didn't deserve that much time and energy. "I think he likes me, but he likes everybody, is he showing me more 'like' than the rest of us, is this liking everybody to be considered devaluing me, I love him with all the depth and breadth of my soul, but he can't ever know, in case it changes what we have together...hurt, anquish, despair"
So alien to me, glad for the learning curve. Wonderfully written though. I got mad at the person writing it. Typical of me.

I just came across this. What you wrote is so lovely (does an istp tolerate this word? :) because these forums made me realize even more how different people can be from one another and how much potential for misunderstandings there is really. human relationships are a minefield.

[Antrist]

And i like that you explained what happened :) also, i did not tell you to get over yourself but you guys - istps. but then again i have a lot of affection for people who are of this type, and motorcycle accidents or not you people are quite courageous.
well, except when it comes to matters of heart :) then you fall for an infp and all of your walls start crumbling and its suddenly an emergency situation. only this time its not funny, but really scary ;)

I've fallen a little bit, for an ISFP.
Tuesday night I went to our staff party, with all the drinks on a tab. Most people were quite drunk by about 11, including me. A (suspected) ESFJ friend got a bit upset about someone else at the party, and it was re-confirmed that I fall short when someone is crying. I don't say anything, I just sort of stare intently. I have no idea what to say, really. I think that just letting someone purge is the best thing you can do, instead of trying to talk them around. I guess that's what I'd want, if it was me. I wouldn't leave her on her own, though.

Anyway, the night went on and to cut a long story short, I got my dance on and gave myself a nasty case of whiplash. Apparently my dance technique needs a little less violence. /snort

but when it comes to you, Alex, your post about a little girl calling you your real name and your reaction lingered in my mind for a while. sometimes, there are situations when one can witness a tough and invincible istp being touched by someones tenderness (although you might call it "awkward") and i find it very sweet and moving (i assume this wouldnt be your preferred adjectives ;)).

Some tenacious customers like to do this as banter, particularly the young ones. It made me smile, I just felt a little weird because sometimes I forget I'm wearing the name-badge, and very few people use it. It caught me off-guard. I like the interesting customers and it's always a treat to have a laugh with them. I've debated whether I'm E or I - because I'm extremely fond of company. I prefer to have jobs and tasks to myself, though.

[petitpèlerin]

motorcycle accidents or not you people are quite courageous.
well, except when it comes to matters of heart :) then you fall for an infp and all of your walls start crumbling and its suddenly an emergency situation. only this time its not funny, but really scary ;)

Touche. Truly emotional situations are emergencies! How the heck is anyone supposed to know what to do?! Those things aren't logical!

My xNFP friends are some of the only people who get inside the matters of my heart. I don't usually fall for them, but they're some of the only ones who ever know what goes on inside when I do fall for someone. :)

Sorry if my last post was a little harsh. I was just feeling a bit defensive.

[StephMC]

...when you feel absolutely jubilant when you went to a new hair dresser and she didn't even attempt to start up a conversation or small talk. The only things she said were in relation to the job at hand. You'll be going back to her for your next haircut.

[Antrist]

...when you feel absolutely jubilant when you went to a new hair dresser and she didn't even attempt to start up a conversation or small talk. The only things she said were in relation to the job at hand. You'll be going back to her for your next haircut.

Yeah. I know it's just conversation but it always gets me that whenever I go back to the same barber, they always ask about what I do.

I did sit through a very interesting story about the male barber, who went into a lot of detail of his previous professions as a male "escort" and property owner. TMIII...