Hi fellow ISTP’ers
I’d like your insight in a problem I am having. Of course it involves women. Which also means there is a feeling involved from my part, because else I couldn’t even care anyway.
So let me tell you what the point is. I have been a member of my gym for a couple of years. There is a girl that has been working there for some time, but until recently I didn’t even know it, since she never peaked my interest.
She recently, however she did. I don’t know if a literal reflection of what happened has any added value, so the short is that it started with bantering and I felt like she played along quite well and that she was pretty intelligent and somehow she also had “something” in the physical department. So that peaked my interest.
I didn’t talk to her afterwards till a week later when I tried to involve her into her a conversation I had with another guy. Instead of playing along she started a rant against the other guy and afterwards to me, about something I said the week before. I told her that experiencing a setback is not bad at her age, since it allows you to grow. Somehow she interpreted it as me wishing her bad things.
That was a sign for me to let things go. It says a lot about her and little about me. Anyway a couple of weeks went by and last Tuesday she started to talk to me.
She had muscle aches and I asked her what her goals were. She wanted to burn more fat. She lost 28 pounds so I said well done. Even better keeping it off. Then we got interrupted by some idiot women with no social limitations at all. After I got rid of her I asked the girl, ok I got interrupted, but what do you eat. She said, well something special and I don’t want to tell it to you, because of course you will have all kind of remarks and reasons why it is not good. I said well ok, why would I, as long as if it makes you feel good, you should do it. So I said, is it working for you? She said well, yes sure, made some weird movement and ran off.
What is that??? I am used to black and white shit. Women are totally in to me or they want to drink my blood. This is totally new for me. If never met a woman who starts talking to me and then be vocal about my intentions in whatever way, without even knowing me. Is that intuitive stuff?
It annoys me that I can’t grasp it and that I can’t read whether she likes me or not (would that be the famous ti ni loop?).
Has anyone of you ever experienced this behavior and do you think it is person related or personality type related?
I love to hear your insights!