Hello all! This month, we are starting a new series, "Member Spotlight" to showcase members from all across the forum. This month's winner is a good-natured, positive presence on the forum with many insights to share. Let's give it up for:
What country are you situated in?
Too predictably, I am situated in the United States of America.
Are you single, dating, or married?
I am single and have been for almost ever! I'm perfectly content with this status though, I enjoy being able to have strong friendships while also having independent and enjoying time to support myself on my path into my future.
Do you have any kids?
No, which is to be expected as a young person who has never dated.
How would you describe yourself in one word?
What is your favorite place to travel to?
This is cliche, but at this time in my life I'm pretty alright to be anywhere as long as my loved ones are with me.
What is your favorite color?
I would say "earth-y" colors, but "purple" is one of them and purple is pretty clearly not "earth-y". Blue, green, and purple are my go-to colors, but I'm not opposed to yellow, white, and brown either. Red is growing on me, after an entire life so far of being in firm opposition to it. (I consider this acceptance of red character development.)
What is your favorite weather?
I enjoy cloudy days that get as cold as they can possibly get... preferably without wetness!
What are your favorite books, movies, tv shows, and video games?
Isn't that a big question! Perhaps to my disadvantage, I have not played video games since maybe 2003, so I can't pull out any relevant favorites there. But my favorite book at this time is probably East of Eden by John Steinbeck, my favorite movie is 2013's Saving Mr. Banks, and my go-to favorite show has been Reign for a while... but I must admit that How to Get Away With Murder is really growing on me.
What are your favorite foods and beverages?
I love water and rice.
What is your favorite animal?
What kind of music do you enjoy?
I know a lot of people say this, but I am really trying to expand my horizons when it comes to music. I listen to just about everything but screamo and classic rock. Right now I most enjoy indie and world music.
Do you play or follow any sports?
Not at this time, but I'm trying to get into the NFL for social purposes.
What are your favorite websites to visit?
Well... this one... and Tumblr, Playbuzz, alternating news sites.
What is your greatest weakness?
I could answer this in a flattering way or a non flattering way. My flattering weakness is that I have too big of a heart, I feel the world's pains too deeply, I love too much, and this I am a very sensitive and overly considerate person.
The less flattering weakness I have is that I am not always a loving person. I can be hateful, manipulative, and especially hypocritical. These are multiple weaknesses, but I classify them together because to me they count as being "unloving," which in my eyes is the greatest weakness any of us can have. Unfortunately it is a weakness that I must gradually begin to overcome.
What is your greatest strength?
My greatest strength is certainly my heart. It bleeds, but it also grows strong through the gradual readjustment to its constant wounds over time. I care about a lot of people in the world, a lot of issues in the world, a lot of life. I would say that "in time this will benefit me," but it has benefited me already... but more than that, to me, I would like to think that it has benefited others. I'll never touch every life in a positive way, but I do think I can say with confidence that I have touched more lives in a good way than in a bad way. I would count that scale - and the knowledge that I can continue on this scale - as my greatest strength, to me.
What motivates you?
Another cliche, but I am genuinely motivated to make the universe a better place for everyone, to help others in whatever way I can, and to just ultimately bring more love into circulation in this world with my existence.
What is your philosophy?
That's a great question, and one I hope to figure out more thoroughly in my years to come. For right now I think this quote about sums it up.
It's rather embarrassing to have given one's entire life to pondering the human predicament and to find that in the end one has little more to say than, 'Try to be a little kinder.'
- Aldous Huxley
I'm not sure if that counts as a philosophy, but that's how I try to live my life. Ultimately by being kind and trying to support the growth of kindness and happiness in others.
What are you passionate about?
I am passionate about bringing a better future.
What kinds of jobs have you had?
Very small ones. I am guiltily a spoiled full-time student. I have done quite a bit of volunteer work, a mixture of teaching and working with children.
What are your pet peeves?
Honestly, it's difficult for me to identify. I try not to have pet peeves, or at least not to identify them (because that would be to admit that people can be annoying to me... which can admittedly be difficult for me to do). One time someone deliberately didn't hold open the door for me even when they saw I had a heavy load, and that really irked me. I suppose that casual impoliteness can be bothersome to me.
What are your fears?
I fear living in a meaningless world. And pain. And a lot of things, but those about sum it up.
Who do you look up to?
I look up to certain aspects of my family members, but more solidly to historical figures. Two of the most inspirational historical figures for me are Jane Addams and Maya Angelou.
What do you do for fun and relaxation?
I study subjects that I find interesting, which can range from international politics to animals to personality types to history. I also read, write, and watch Netflix. And, of course, visit PerC every now and then.
How did you get involved with personality typing?
We had to take the test in tenth grade. It just grew like a leech on my mind from that point.
What is your Myers Briggs personality type?
If only I had been asked this two weeks ago! At the moment, I must say that I am requestioning my type, which I suppose is one thing that the forum can probably count on me doing for a longer time than we would all like.
What is your Enneagram type?
9w1 / 7w6 / 2w1. SO/SX. I'm pretty solid on this one, thank goodness :)
So what's it like being a Enneagram type 9w1?
I like it. Type Nine is a type that I shied away from for a while, but now I am coming to accept it for myself and appreciate the good things about it. And it is good. I am a chill and easygoing person. I dislike conflict, which can make me bothersome in my conflict-avoidance, but it also gives me a peaceful and friendly presence. The bad things about it are that I sometimes slip away from the world... I retreat a lot, even as a friendly person... and sometimes I get in this mode where the idea of movement and action and even just doing anything seems much more painful than it reasonably ought to be...
But it's like any type. It's me, and these faults can be moderated. Recognizing myself as a Type Nine over the summer has greatly helped me reconcile some of these semi-tragic tendencies, and finding a more actually active self has greatly improved my experience of the world, which I appreciate.
Do you think the different personality theories give an accurate description of you?
Yes. Much better than horoscopes :) Of course there are bits that don't fit me and bits that do, but that's part of the information that is made clear to most everyone in our first stages of Typing 101.
Which personality theory do you prefer, and why?
At this time, I prefer Enneagram, and that is mainly because it is the system that I can best identify myself in at this time. I would like to expand in my knowledge of Socionics, but at this time I am stretching more towards classic Jungian theory.
Do you use personality typing in the real world?
I do and I don't. I have not been as successful as many members have been in recognizing types in the real world, and understanding people thoroughly through them in that way. I haven't figured it out that well, I must admit. But personality typing has enabled me to better understand and respect the differences between people, and has allowed me to better celebrate those differences.
Has personality typing helped you in any way?
Personality typing has helped me see myself as less "weird" and more as just "a person who has a personality type like everyone else". We're all weird, just in different ways. For little self-conscious high school me, this lesson was very helpful.
Do you prefer to associate yourself with certain types, and why?
No; at this time I'm trying to just identify as myself.
How did you initially find your way to PersonalityCafe?
I was one of those lurkers for the longest time. You know, those "guests" that lurk anonymously at the bottom of some threads. I was that kid who would read two pages into a book and then have to go immediately onto Google and see what the MBTI types for that piece of media were. PersonalityCafe was my site of choice to visit when multiple results popped up. Over time I casually explored it and discovered the community beyond the Guess the Type section.
What made you join us?
Last year I decided I was done having a typing crisis. And so I signed up. Flash forward a year, I still haven't found all my types... but I have learned a lot about people, personality, typing, and myself, which I have found more soothing than a definite set of letters.
Why did you choose "Pressed Flowers" as your username?
It's actually a sweet story. It happened to be maybe a day or two after that announcement went up this summer about name changes, so the idea of names was flickering on my mind... and my cousin who I happened to be babysitting gave me a flower, which I then decided to give a shot at pressing so I could remember that moment. That flickered the idea of this name.
I love the idea of pressed flowers; they are preserving something beautiful. One of the saddest things to me about flowers, especially picked flowers, bouquets, is that they die. They pass away. They wither and go black.
Pressing flowers prevents that. The color remains, even the scent remains. The flower may not live, but its little legacy endures. That's beautiful. Not everything in the world should be like that, it wouldn't be right, but I am glad that at least flowers can harmlessly be kept in this manner.
What is the significance of your current avatar?
Honestly? When we switched to purple names, I wanted an avatar to match, but also something light-hearted (to match my own present mood lately)... so the purple Disney princess it was. I'm probably going to switch it soon, especially with this new name color.
How about your signature?
As some of the forum may have picked up on, I've had the same signature for a while. Some of it is presently inaccurate, and I really should update it (I'm not Melancholic, I know my Enneagram, and I'm not as certain about my place with Jungian functions...), but one aspect of it that I continue to love is the quote I have from the wonderfully thoughtful late twentieth century novel Cassandra. The book is full of outstanding quotes, but this one in particular spoke to me. It is one that I relate to a lot, especially in this coming-of-age period that I am in the midst of. Growing up, I had this unrealized conviction that only my eyes existed, almost that I alone was suffering and laughing and feeling in this world. As I have aged, I have come to fully understand this reality that there is so much to the world, that my perspective is a limited one that represents a minority of the vast variations of perspectives that all these seven billion people on our planet possess. It's such a simple thing, and something I am inclined to believe we all go through, but reading this quote showed me how important this realization has been for me and I think it represents a lot of this point in my life's journey fairly well.
If you had to choose your favorite forum on PerC, which would it be?
I've really enjoyed browsing the Enneagram forum lately. The resources and discourse are both lovely to read.
What do you like most about PersonalityCafe?
I used to love the knowledge. Now I love the people. Over this year, I've gotten to know so many names that then became the owner of posts and that then became people. A lot of these people, I have not spoken with... but (and I know that this will strike many as partially unbelievable) still I think I can say that every person with a username that I have come across on this website occupies some warm crevice of my heart. I love the community most of all. The discussion is good, the sharing of knowledge is wonderful and full of impact, but the members here are certainly what I have come to like most about PersonalityCafe.
What do you dislike most about PersonalityCafe?
The arguments. I dislike seeing personal attacks. I dislike seeing terse situations. I dislike seeing discord in others, words of hatred. Of course some of this is me just being too upset by conflict. Some disagreement is natural, and yet it still tugs at me, which is why one will very infrequently find me in the forums inclined towards debate. I have been on about five forums before this one, and PersonalityCafe is one of the most harmonized that I have come across. Still, angry words aren't always the most likable thing for me.
What is the most important thing you've learned here?
We are people, not types. Types are tools to understand us, but they have such limitations. The individuality of every unique person should not go unacknowledged.
Do you have any advice for the community of PersonalityCafe?
Keep being great. And try to discuss opposing opinions without losing sight of the fact that there is literally another person on the other end of the conversation.
If you could have any super power, what would it be?
I crave telepathy.
What do you know now that you wish you'd known five years ago?
I wish I could have known what I mentioned earlier, that the world is so much beyond myself and my perception.
What do you believe is your greatest accomplishment at this point?
I would consider the sum of my contributions to my community my greatest accomplishment in my life thus far.
Tell us something about yourself that we don't already know.
I don't have a birthmark, and this has always bothered me.
What is next for you? What are your plans and goals for the future?
Well, I'm hoping to be able to do what I've dreamed an find whatever way I can to help this world, to make a better future for all of humanity, for all of life. And, being me, I do have a plan to accomplish this... gradually. For right now my plan is to finish this, read a book, and get ready for a busy and semi-scholarly day tomorrow.
Give us your parting words.
I really just cannot believe that I was nominated for this. There are so many deserving people on this forum, and I'm not sure I would rank myself even anywhere near the top of that list. Receiving this honor has certainly made me more determined to put forth some names around the forum so that we can get some of those especially popping individuals the dues that they have more than especially earned.
I would like to thank those who nominated me for your kindnesses, the countless members who have aided me more than ever-so-patiently on my truly endless typing journey for their persistence and forgiveness, and my official and unofficial friends for making my forum existence as great as I think anyone could hope a forum existence could be.
Thank you all for even clicking on this topic, and if you read even part of this... Thank you for listening to my rambling on about myself. It was completely unnecessary of you, but still you did it. I appreciate that.
You know that Greek phrase, "Know thyself"? It is regarded as something of true wisdom to be able to recognize who you are, to have reasonable knowledge of your flaws, strengths, and humanity. Many people struggle throughout their lives to obtain this.
The members of this forum are undoubtedly at different states in their stages of knowing themselves. Some I think know themselves about as completely as anyone can know themselves. Others are just beginning their journeys of self-discovery.
And yet, you're here. And doubtless, you've seen the PersonalityCafe motto here. This is "the place to discover yourself." You have an interest in knowing who you are. You're already on your way to untangling this crucial mystery that all of us have the choice to uncover.
I leave you this post with the final hope that this mission you have given yourself to find yourself may prove a successful one that may equip you for all your endeavors to come.