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    INFJ Males, does this mean I'm friendzoned?

    Thereís a boy I like and have been friends with for a few years. Heís called me beautiful a few times and he sits by me a lot, is extremely awkward around me at times (which I find endearing) and looks away quickly when I catch him looking at me. However he is also hard to read, as most INFJ's are (he has a great poker face and you can almost never tell exactly what heís thinking or feeling.) Last week we were talking about our first impressions of each other, and when I asked what he thought of me when we first met he said I was and still am really cool (i've never heard him use that word to describe a girl.) Iíve heard some guys say that if a guy calls you cool it means youíve been friendzoned or he just sees you as one of the guys, and Iíve heard from others that cool is a high compliment and could indicate heís interested romantically. So my question is, INFJ guys, what does cool mean to you? If you call a girl cool and chill, is it because you see her as one of the guys or strictly as a friend, or could it mean youíre interested in dating her? I know it will vary from guy to guy, but I'm just looking for a general idea/answer. Thanks in advance! PS I know it obviously means he thinks Iím cool, period, I just want to know if the word means anything else to you when you say it about a girl or not



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    Well, because it varies from guy to guy, I'm not entirely sure that telling you what it means to me would be much of a help. However, when you put things in prospective I'd say you don't have too much to worry about.

    On the plus side,
    He's called you beautiful
    He sits by you a lot
    You catch him looking at you and he looks away

    On the we don't really know what this means side
    He thinks you're cool.

    Those are pretty good odds if you ask me.

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    Speaking generally, I would say that even if you've been friendzoned, that doesn't necessarily spell doom for you when it comes to INFJs. I say this because we tend to like our romantic relationships to begin as friends. We like to take our time growing the bond through mutual trust and respect. The fact that you've known each other for so long already tells me that you're in that INFJs inner circle, and probably thinks highly of you. Him saying that "you're cool" probably doesn't really imply that he doesn't see you as a potential mate.

    You should probably talk to him from the heart, and tell him how you feel if he means that much to you. You'll probably be surprised at the result ;)

    Anyway, good luck!
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    Quote Originally Posted by oceanblueenfp View Post
    There’s a boy I like and have been friends with for a few years. He’s called me beautiful a few times and he sits by me a lot, is extremely awkward around me at times (which I find endearing) and looks away quickly when I catch him looking at me. However he is also hard to read, as most INFJ's are (he has a great poker face and you can almost never tell exactly what he’s thinking or feeling.) Last week we were talking about our first impressions of each other, and when I asked what he thought of me when we first met he said I was and still am really cool (i've never heard him use that word to describe a girl.) I’ve heard some guys say that if a guy calls you cool it means you’ve been friendzoned or he just sees you as one of the guys, and I’ve heard from others that cool is a high compliment and could indicate he’s interested romantically. So my question is, INFJ guys, what does cool mean to you? If you call a girl cool and chill, is it because you see her as one of the guys or strictly as a friend, or could it mean you’re interested in dating her? I know it will vary from guy to guy, but I'm just looking for a general idea/answer. Thanks in advance! PS I know it obviously means he thinks I’m cool, period, I just want to know if the word means anything else to you when you say it about a girl or not
    "Cool" has an energetic frequency of angel number 0, which means that the man (he's likely Energy-based being) is feeling sad or angry. This might be because he thinks you are "too good" for him (for example, that you can get a guy with more money, better looks, or better clothing). He is very interested in you, though his lack of self-faith, self-belief, and self-respect might throw wrenches into your relationship. He can probably read more books, find inspiration and hope somewhere to energize him, and keep him on the right track. He needs to follow a righteous path to gain wisdom, about himself, the world, and other people.

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    i think we infjs hardly friendzone anyone.
    ive known and been friends/friendly with almost any Girl ive ever had a crush on for a Long time before.
    the only exception is a Girl with whom i was briefly crushing on four months after we met first, which is still far away from love at the first sight.
    infjs are said to have trust issues (i definitely have). and we trust our friends. so we tend to see them as possible romantic Partners.
    another reason could be that im uncomfortable with dating, but love romance.

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    1: Cool means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Personally, I'd use the term when I want to tell someone that they're special in some way. I would definitely describe my girlfriend as cool.
    One thing about INFJs is that we tend to have different ideas about how to describe things compared to the rest of society. There's a decent chance one of the things you like about him is that he's unconventional.

    2: INFJs tend to be bad at talking about their feelings and stuff like that. If he's an INFJ that means that he might have difficulty describing how he actually feels about you and just falls back on a word that he's sure at least describes you. INFJs tend to be very careful with how they word things and it might be hard for him to find a word that both describes how he feels about you and that also fits with how he thinks you would interpret it.

    3: It's possible that things have gone to a point where he thinks nothing might happen anymore and he's basically hedging his bets. If you two have known each other for a time you've probably already practically friendzoned each other and things will continue to be this way until either of you makes a move on the other. Your tone suggests that both of you have been avoiding this subject for a while, so he might have been asking himself the same question. Maybe you have been friendzoning him unknowingly?
    Maybe it's time to be honest with yourself about this thing you have here. Do you want something to happen? Maybe he's waiting for you to make a move.

    4: It's not really all that much related to this topic, but are you sure he's INFJ? I see a lot of people that are shoehorned into the INFJ type because they're kind, gentle and silent. That could mean a lot of things. He might be an ISTP for example, based on those characteristics. Even tests are often incorrect about these things. I've seen so many people take a test and have it come to the wrong conclusion.
    As I said, it doesn't really matter all too much. It's just that a thread like this where you assert that he's INFJ and then ask us if his behaviour is a standard INFJ thing can all fall apart if he's mistyped. It's often wise to judge people on their own merits and use MBTI as a way to understand that, rather than try and make predictions on its basis. There's a lot of things that can go wrong there.
    (and as I said, this final point isn't really a big one. Just a small trigger that I tend to have in threads like these. Feel free to ignore)


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